Monday, February 1, 2010

Mommy Tantrum

I like to cook. To me there is something almost therapeutic about being in the kitchen in front of the stove stirring and sauteing. I don't know what it is but I never feel stressed or overwhelmed in the kitchen. It is my place to create and really be me.

Since I have a great love of cooking and the kitchen, I want to share this with my children. I love getting them involved in what I am doing in the kitchen. I think that this fosters good eating habits and helps them appreciate what it takes to get dinner on the table.

I know that my love of cooking has started to spread because any time I am in the kitchen, they all come running. They grab chairs and stools and gather round to see what I am doing. They like to learn about the different foods. They like to taste the food in its different forms, raw and cooked. And they like that I let them help.

I do love the fact that they get so excited to help me make dinner but sometimes their help is a little much.

I would say that we have a pretty good sized kitchen but when you add four kids, each with their chair or stool, and each with their toy or two of choice, there is not a whole lot of room for me or the food.

I know that they do enjoy being in the kitchen but inevitably, they all start too loose interest. They are just kids. But their lack of interest in the food translate into an interest in playing at my feet, even though, they have the whole house to run around and play in.

Pretty soon, they have dragged every toy in the house into the kitchen and I can't even walk back and froth from the island in the middle of the kitchen to the stove because the floor is covered with toys or children.

Sometimes, it is more than I can take. Especially when it is not really playing that they are doing but fighting and bickering or I have stepped on/tripped over the same toy fifty times.

This causes me stress. The kitchen is suppose to be my space. A place that I can come to to unwind, to relax and enjoy what I am cooking. But on those days, when I get dinner started late or the kids have been at each other all day and I step on a toy again, I lose it. And I am not just talking about yelling and removing the kids from the room. No, I have a full blown mommy tantrum.

I yell, scream, stomp my feet, wave my arms, pound on the counter and I throw things.

Yes, that is right. During one of my recent tantrums, I picked up that toy which I had tripped over 12 times and I threw it across the room. Do you see it? Here is a closer look.

That's right, I threw the toy across the room and it landed in the chandelier. Thank goodness it was a soft toy or my consequences might have been worse. Because now all I have to deal with was my kids, who of course saw the whole things and told me, "No, No, Mommy. Don't throw toys. You. Naughty chair, now!"

So after a good laugh, it was off to the naughty chair for me.

And yes, lesson learned.

43 comments:

Melissa said...

That's funny stuff!

Anonymous said...

Is that a legless Spiderman??

Susie said...

Too funny! My kitchen is my sanctuary and no kids are allowed unless they have their hair back and aprons on. No playing allowed:-) Because if they don't obey this rule, I throw things that do break:-)

Cybil said...

Awesome story! I am so glad I am not the only one who has Mommy tantrums!

cat said...

LOL!Jen! Of to the naughty chair! I hate the kids around my feet when I cook. The Lil Miss likes to help and that's great, but the boys! no ways.

Emily said...

Ha! LOVE IT! I've been there too. I recently started a "toy ban" in our kitchen. It seemed fitting since we have a food ban in our living room and my cooking experiences have gotten much better.

Sarahviz said...

That's so timely that you wrote this - I have a post just about ready about cooking with children and how NOT FUN it is for me!

Emmy said...

Too funny. And I may or may not have thrown a toy or two :)

And yes, I like to call the time right before dinner the divorce zone, everything is hungry, tired and trying to get lots of things done.

By the way I have a couple of awards for you on my blog today.

AiringMyLaundry said...

So funny. I've thrown stuff too.

I want my kids out of the kitchen when I cook though. I hate cooking so dragging in extra people just makes things that more stressful for me to the point where I'm all, "Okay! Everyone out! Goodbye! Go watch Dora! Goodbye now!"

Lollidale Farm said...

Oh, that's hilarious! I've had mommy moments like that, too. Glad nothing was hurt!

Anonymous said...

Just yesterday my kids were fighting over what game to play on Wii. I got so upset that I put my own self in time out (in my bedroom), until it was safe for those little munchins. Totally can relate, thanks for being real.

Anonymous said...

That's a great story :) My mom used to split us into groups of two for stuff like that (cooking, visiting gma, or whatever.) Maybe you could have mondays be kids 1&2 and thurs be kids 3&4 and you can have the other days to yourself?

Keyona said...

So...we are not supposed to throw things? Got it. I'll work on that. :)

S Club Mama said...

oh dear. I can understand that. although I'm not much of a cook, I do sometimes enjoy the time to myself. And last night, I enjoyed washing the dishes while Anthony washed the kids. :)

Danyele Easterhaus said...

...and this is why we are friends. :)

Blythe said...

Oh, no! Not the Naughty Chair!!

Brandy said...

I don't like anyone in the kitchen when I'm cooking UNLESS they are actually helping; otherwise they are just in my way.

Poor spidey was just an innocent bystander but I don't guess you would toss a toddler like that huh?! LOL!

Gretchen said...

Heh, I would love to get sent to the naughty chair! AT least I'd get some time to sit down. ha ha

Connie said...

This has been happening in my kitchen too! And I'm a thrower.....

Sara @ Domestically Challenged said...

I admit Jen, I almost quit reading after you said you like to cook. However, I held out, hoping for an ending like this! Way to go mama!

Tracie said...

That reminds me. I need to order takeout for dinner tonight.

Kacey said...

Oh sometimes I think I would take my turn in the naughty chair just to sit by myself. LOL

Claremont First Ward said...

Ha ha ha. Good thing I don't have a naughty chair at home or I'd be in big trouble.

Lourie said...

I would throw the toy too. LOL. I have been known to kick a few, slam pots and pans, and a cupboard or two. If you ever want to clear a room...just start washing dishes. It seems to be the ticket for me.

Unknown said...

I am so glad to know I am not the only mom that loses it and throw stuff on occasion. Thankfully I have not broken anything yet either.

Helene said...

I feel the same exact way! I'm not a huge fan of cooking but when I'm in the kitchen I see it as my domain...the one place I can be and feel relaxed. But then the kids wanna join in on the cooking and before you know it, I've completely lost my cool and being in the kitchen is no longer fun.

I was laughing the whole time reading this post and the kids wanted to know what I was laughing at. I told them, "There's another Mommy I know who has tantrums like me when her kids drive her nuts in the kitchen". Cole said, "So you're not the only mom who does that?"

Thank goodness!!! I'm normal! This is why I love your blog so much....I know you're going through the exact same stuff I am and it makes me feel normal!

CaraBee said...

I would definitely like to instill a love of food and cooking in my daughter, but for now, she is too hyperactive to really help. In a few months (or years), I will get her more involved. For now, cooking time is MY time and I cherish that time.

Kellee said...

Ohhhh, funny stuff! I hate when I reach that level or frustrated. EXPLOSION A'COMIN!

Liz Mays said...

That was quite a toy launch you made, Jen! Bravo!!!

Tiffany @ Lattes And Life said...

I've had my fair share of mommy tantrums!!! Good for you for taking your turn in the naughty chair ;-)

Sarah Beth said...

Haha. Cute story, Jen. Thanks for stopping by!

Karina said...

That is so funny! Thank you for stopping by.

I don't know how you do it with four kids!!!!

Prerna said...

lol!

debi9kids said...

You are not alone mama. I think we all have those moments.
(my kitchen is my fortress and I feel the same way about it being invaded)

Herman said...

Hahaha... I can imagine it! Four children! I'm having a hard enough time remaining patient with one teething 4 month old - or not with her so much, as with the amount of stuff she generates! Thanks for stopping by my blog earlier!

Evolving Mommy Catherine said...

I totally understand this because I have also thrown Mommy Tantrums in the kitchen because of toys and chairs and pots and pans all spread out around my feet while I'm cooking. I finally had to make a no toys in the kitchen rule.

I am a little envious that you actually got a time out. I wish I could get time out more often.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for this.

I thought I was the only one who threw things on occasion.

viridian said...

There is a wine called Mommy's Time Out. The label shows a chair facing the corner, with a small table next to it with a glass of wine and a bottle on it.

Michelle said...

LOL! Ok, we need to get you on a schedule of cooking with one kid at a time! :)

Allegro ma non troppo said...

Naughty Jen! How funny. I'm glad to have a bench where the kids sit on one side and I work on the other. More like a bar, I guess. Of course, that means they treat me like a bar maid...

Unknown said...

We have a "no toys in the kitchen" rule and if they end up in there they lose of for the rest of the day. I highly recommend you instill this! ;-)

So, how was the naughty chair?

Honey Mommy said...

I am glad I'm not the only one who has "mommy tantrums" on occasion.

I swear my kids go get toys just to spread them all over my floors and I am constantly telling them to pick them up! Sometimes I think if I have to repeat myself ONE MORE TIME, I may explode. :o)

Michelle said...

I shouldn't laugh but their response to you is hilarious. In moments of frustration it is nice to take a step back and laugh at yourself when things like this happen.