So that is why I am joining in with Jill from Scary Mommy. I am going to show how I am really just a 'scary mommy or as I like to call it a 'Real Mommy'.
Let my kids run around with spoons in their mouths. I try and stop them but they are just too fast.
I have them wait in the car while I run into the post office. There is just too many of them and it is really better for the post office if I leave them in the car. Because the second they go in and look at the mail just become completely unorganized. They make chaos where ever they go. But don't worry, I leave a DVD playing for them.
We eat McDonald's at least once a week. I have no reason for this. It is just easy.
I don't change their clothes if their clothes are 'just a little' damp from a diaper that leaked or if they spill on it. Having four kids creates enough laundry and if I changed their clothes every single time they peed on their clothes or got them dirty, I would be doing laundry every single day. No thank you!
I let them jump off the stairs and furniture because how else I am suppose to exhaust them so that they will go to bed.
They watch way to much TV because I don't really know what else to do with them during the day.
I give in and say yes after I have said no twenty times just to stop the whining. I am weak and whining is just a powerful weapon. Seriously, anything to stop the whining.
I don't do crafts with my kids. I am not a crafty person so finding crafts and projects for them is not something I want to do. My idea of a craft is giving them paper and a crayon or two.
I am on the internet too much. But I try to do it when they are sleeping as much as possible but sometime I just need to get on-line and escape.
So now I hope that all of you will stop calling me a great Mom. I have put out there all my dirty little secrets. And man, what a relief.
But you know what? I don't feel bad or guilty (ok, I feel a little guilty. I am a Mom and there is always guilt) about this. I am a REAL Mom who makes mistakes. A Mom who is trying to do the best that she can. A Mom who will never claim to be perfect, in fact I won't even try.
And that is just fine with me. I LOVE my kids with every fiber of my being and that right there is enough for me and them.
47 comments:
i have three kids, and you have four. we are totally, completely, hopelessly outnumbered.
the inmates are running the asylum.
all that really matters is that we love our kids and do the best to keep them from trying to kill themselves/each other. everything else is icing. (mmm.. icing.)
your kids are just adorable. (i'm sure, like mine, it is the one thing that keeps them alive some days).
OH NO YOU DI'INT PULL THE TRIPLET CARD.
I am so gonna win that flip camera!
You are not scary enough.
Just kidding, turd. You're plenty scary, I'm sure.
Oh, you sound pretty scary! I'll be posting mine Tuesday. I'm thinking pretty scary thoughts! I'm not sharing, though--they're just too scary--LOL
So you ARE like me after all!!! lol!
Check, check and check. :)
So fun to meet you this weekend!
Nice try...
You are the bestest, most awesome momma.
And don't try to change my great impression of you ever again :)
I think you are still a good mom... after all good moms know when to pick their battles!
B A D mommy! lol!
Oh heck, you're just real and honest, certainly not scary!
Proof positive that you are a REAL mommy and not just an imitation... :)
Is it okay to have only 1 child and do all those things?
Thanks for the laughs and dose of reality:P
I entered as well and had a lot of fun writing about being scary. Good luck!
I do all that stuff. And when I don't (like when I take all the kids with me for a quick trip to the post office) things go horribly wrong.
By the way, the penalty here for leaving your kids unattended in a car is up to 3 years. In jail. Where they cook for you and provide for you and there's nobody whining in your ear. Whining, whining, whining.
We Aussie Scary Mums think they didn't think that deterrent through all that well.
We are good moms. We give to our children what we have to offer and since we are human, we are flawed. But we love like nobody's business:-)
i enjoyed your post. i'm not alone in the mess we call motherhood, and it feels wonderful. i admit that i do a lot of the same mothering you do. i am not outnumbered though. me and kiddo go to mcd's once a week, sometimes twice. he still runs with a lollipop in his mouth, even though i ask him not to each time. my kiddo does watch too much TV, and treats the house and furniture like his own personal gymnasium. have a wonderful day and take care.
Seriously if you changed their outfits after every spill or diaper leak, I'd come and kick your butt. LOL Tristan wears the same jeans like 4 days in a row unless they are super gross. :)
Hey Jen, as I always say, we are all just trying our best!
I still think you are a great mom and there is nothing you can say to change that.
How about really scary?! Nah. I think you nailed it -- you're real!
This sounds like me! You sound like a PERFECT mommy to me!
Perfect moms are scary...not real!! Great post. I may do the same.
You are a great mom! And honest which makes you and even better mom. It is the moms that pretend to be perfect and think they are that usually snap and mess up the most.
This is why I love you Jen :)
I'll never be a perfect mom and currently I only have 1. As long as you love your children and don't tell the media they are floating away in a hot air balloon you made, I think you are doing pretty darn good!
Being a real mom is good. It's survival of the fittest out there. :)
I do a lot of those things too.
Remember...Mama Kat said to call our computer time *homework*.
How are your kids doing? Still sick?
THANK YOU about the frigging crafty thing!! I am the most unartistic person I have ever known... that is truly no exaggeration. My poor child asks me to draw animals with her and after telling her "I'm sorry, honey, but I am not good at this" 47247349 times, I finally give in. Only to watch said child scrunch up her face and state that it looks NOTHING like whatever animal she wanted me to draw. Can't say I didn't warn her.
I'm loving reading all these scary mommy posts today... makes me feel not alone in the fact that I'm a scary mommy myself! My kids eat McDonald's all the time, too! ;)
See, this is why we totally GET each other. I giggled as I read those reasons and I'm right there with you on every single one. EVERY SINGLE ONE. I don't think that makes us scary at all...we're real. What makes you even more real is that you tell it like it is...anyone who says that they have NOT done any of the things you've listed is lying. Plain and simple.
So what if we've fed our kids McD's, so what if they run around the house with spoons in their mouths...so what!! In the end, our kids are loved and they know that. We do the best that we can do.
And, seriously, when you're this outnumbered, it's all about survival mode! I'm in survival mode every single day of my life!
Whew! I'm so glad there's another real mom out there! I never do crafts either and have left my kids in the car to run into the post office too...in fact, I plan on doing it this afternoon! ;) Real Moms ROCK!
Haha, well the sign of a good mommy is love, and it looks like you've got that part covered!! :)
Looks like you are a GREAT mom to me and your 4 children are just beautiful! :o)
I let them jump off the stairs and furniture because how else I am suppose to exhaust them so that they will go to bed.
Could not have said it better myself...
You a fantastic Mom.
We end up at McDonalds a lot too. Mainly because I hate to cook. And because I love their fries.
I am totally laughing over the fact that you don't change clothes when the kids are just a little wet with pee. LOL! I totally do that! My 4 year old often leaks when going to the bathroom....I'd be changing him all day!
We are all scary mommies. For real. I love reading everyone's mommy foibles because god knows I've got mine! Makes me feel not so alone.
I STILL think that you are a great Mommy! I don't know how you make it through each day- even with some of these shortcuts!
Hey, I nominated you for an award. Check out my blog for details.
you are just real and saying what most people won't say out loud. I had a moment today that I wasn't crazy about my daugher cuz of the whining. but at the end of the day I adore her. thanks for such an honest post. love...great seeing you this weekend.
I could've written that post myself! Good work! lol
Oh, we'd be such a good pair!!
I agree--- there is nothing that tires out my children like jumping on furniture. And it's probably the safest fun they have, so it works for me. And the laundry? Hear you on that, too. I cannot imagine life with triplets. Super scary!
This post made me happy, Jen. So glad you played. :)
I'm so glad to hear I'm not the only one that doesn't change the clothes when they are just a little bit damp (or the sheets, for that matter - throw a towel on it and we'll worry about it in the morning), eat at McD's once a week (with 3 children under 4, well, I just don't have time to care all that much. Plus, they eat apples, which must count for something, right?), I give in after about 15 minutes because I just simply don't have the will power (I'm too tired after being up all night with the baby). But I'm right there with you; I'm a real mom, doing the best I can, and I don't really care what anyone else thinks.
Wow I can relate to all of the things you do! I guess that's what real mommyhood is.
Yep, yep and yep. You're really not that bad....I've got four boys so, you know....yeah.
Guilty. Guilty guilty guilty. Not a one thing on your list I haven't committed.
Though I don't even bother trying to stop them running unless it's with a knife. Well... maybe the baby.
I'm now a little skiddish, though it still happens, about leaving them in the car as some stranger called the cops on me, but had the audacity to tell the cop, "well, she was only gone about 2-3 minutes..." (I have a 2-word phrase for that person, the first word starts with an F and the second word is 'off'). But it does go "in your file" for like 10 yrs here in MN.
And my reason for not doing crafts is because I don't want to clean up the mess. And I just can't be bothered to round up all the crap for it.
Thanks for airing your "real" mom qualities. Now we know just how normal and imperfect we ALL are. :D
Amen to all you said. I concur to everything lol. Being a mom to a lot of little people is hard; I dont know how my three kids and I make it at the end of the day.
Oh all these scary mommy stories are so great! I am with you on everything except leaving the kids in the car. Not only is is totally illegal in NC wit the 0 second laws but I have heard some real scary stories! Pls. be careful! I want you and your kids to be okay!
LOL at the rest though!
SO not scary at all... in fact, totally real, totally cool, totally me!!!
Being a mommy is hard - and completely thankless job (despite the sloppy kisses, and uber pride you feel every single day for raising such awesome kids)... it's much harder than my previous go-to-work and get paid in real dollars job. But it's awesome - and I"m so glad that I get to do it... even if I do let them play outside or watch TV while I attempt to surf the internet.
sounda about right! Any mom who says those things do not happen in their house are lying!
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