I got somethings on my mind so forgive this post because it is going to be rambling mess of things that I have been thinking about, things that have been keeping me awake at night.
I have been feeling out of balance lately. I don't claim to have mastered the skill of balancing all the things in my life but I do feel that I do a pretty good job of keeping all the balls in the air per say. But lately, I feel that something is askew and I don't know why and I don't know how to fix it. Something is just not right and I can't put my finger on it.
I love ebay shopping but boy oh boy is it every addicting. I love winning the auctions, being the winner is such a thrill. The bad part is that sometime I bit too quickly and win stuff that I really don't need or want all for the thrill of being a winner.
I feel like my marriage has hit a plateau. I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing. I know that we have a very strong marriage, it has been build and a super strong foundation. We have been able to weather many storms that life has thrown at us. In the beginning pre-kids and even with one kid, we did things to nurture our relationship and it grew and grew. But now, I just don't know. It has seemed to stop growing. Is this just life? Is this suppose to happen? Is it good or is it bad? I just don't know?
Why do I have to do laundry each and every week? Is it wrong to want to buy more underwear for Hayden, Jeff and myself and bigger laundry hampers so that I can go 2 weeks or so with out having to do the dreaded tasks?
How come some bloggers are so popular? How does one get to be a popular blogger? What do they have that I don't?
Why can't I just be content with where thingns are in my life? Why do I always push for more, for bigger and better things. Everything I do in my life needs to be pushed to the next level. I am killing myself trying to keep up with the Jones'.
I want to have a open and honest discussion about sex. I want to know how other married couples with children have and maintain a sex life? I like sex. I think is it fun. But it often feels like just one of those things that I need to do or I am suppose to do. Why does is it so easy to make it such a low priority? How do other couples handle this? How do you find the energy? I have tried the scheduled sex thing, like every Tuesday and Thursday night and it works for a while but then it starts to become something that has to be done all fun the fun is gone. Its is just another one of those tasks that needs to be completed before going to sleep. I hate feeling like this.
I don't like change but I also crave it. Isn't that weird? What does that say about me?
A couple days ago, I sorted and organized all the toys in the house. Now I spend most of my time running after the kids putting toys away, back into their 'proper' place. It was so much easier when I could just dump everything in one big box but then the kids didn't play with anything because they couldn't find it. I just can't stand clutter. The fact that I haven't cleaned my house in weeks, not so much but the fact that I can't walk with out stepping on a toy annoys the heck out of me.
I love ice cream.
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51 comments:
you are soooo not alone. I think I could copy and paste at least half your list into a blog post of my own and pass them off as my own thoughts. If you find any answers to your questions, please let me know:)
That's a lot of stuff dumped in one post my friend...
laundry every week? I do it EVERY. DAY. If I skip a day I have anxiety... I can't imagine what could build up in a week...*shudder*
The sex thing... hmmmmm... read some smut, seriously...it might help... (e-mail me....)
The blogging thing? I've wondered that too... there are some wildly popular blogging mamas out there who I'll read once in a while and think... meh... not so special... I go for quality not quantity... I don't care how many readers I have as long as I'm connecting...
there ya have it... I never post comments this long....
I like ice cream too...
Hmmm...a lot going on here!
First...I often wonder too why some bloggers are more popular than others! I mean, you have a lot more followers than me and I should be totally jealous! But like Cristin said, it's quality not quantity that matters! And I happen to love your blog and I consider myself a person of quality :)
Well...know a lot about the marriage thing. Sex is more important to him than me, but I wouldn't pass it up! There are things I like to do to make it more exciting...you know like shaving it all off and stuff (so blushing here!). I've never did the sex on certain nights thing, my husband didn't find that appealing at all! I'll add more if you want...but I'll wait until you say it's OK!
Ebay...I had to put an end to it! I ended up buying stuff just to resell it on ebay!
I'm with you on the toys! I want to organize them better, but for me it hasn't been done yet! I need more containers...NO, they need less toys!
Laundry is always a struggle. I try to do a load a day, but for the love of Pete I always have two or three loads to catch up on! It never ends!!!!
So, but what really matters is not spending too much time worrying about it! The worrying will make you crazy!
OH...please check out this link to a post to another blog that I participate in. It goes over the "wants" and "jealousy" issue...like keeping up with the Jones feeling.
http://wheretwoormoregather.blogspot.com/search/label/jealousy
HTH!
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wow- your head sounds like mine.. this is what I do to myself almost evryday... all kinds of thoughts fighting for attention..
I don't have and aswers that's for sure but I can give you empathy and understanding on a lot of what you said...
ebay- a BAD thing for me... I love it too..I have put a ban on it for myself..I can't afford my adreniline rush! : )
sex- do you really have sex twice a week? with all those kids? if so you are amazing! maybe I'm a wierdo(I DO love sex, actually) but we rarely actually have it.. too many other things to do...
laundry- man, buy some more undies! but I can't imagine having to do two weeks of laundry at once.. that would be insane at our house.. I barely get done folding and putting away one weeks, when it's time to start over.. I think that we do bout 7 loads a week?.. I HATE LAUNDRY!
balance... ha! that's is a daily struggle for me too.. I try to keep it.. but when I lose it I'm never sure what went wrong or if things are just barely balanced as is...so one little thing can cause an avalache...
there's probably more but my comment is probably too long already! : )
Well where do I start? Don't we all have posts like this sometimes? I love them!
Things are always changing aren't they? I'm sure with your hands full with the kids (and are you still working?) that things have to seem out of balance once in awhile. Which could also maybe be why the marriage feels a little stagnant. I believe that there will always be a time when certain things draw your energy closer to it because that is where it's needed. Maybe you were just being pulled towards concentrating on something in particular.
Laundry? Um, I loathe it. And yes, I happily just bought my some new clothes because I am sick of the once a week thing too! Do it!
And you are a popular blogger. What are you talking about? The people who have literally like 400 plus followers? Who knows how they get there. I am still amazed each time I get a new follower. But wouldn't be surprised if I ever lost some. Just remember that those of us who read you think you're the greatest!
So are you saying that we are going to have a sex post discussion. Yes! I'm in! =)
I feel you on SOOO many levels!
I am just glad to hear that you are still HAVING sex after all those kids, nevermind how you feel about it! It is hard after give, give, giving all day (even with my 1 kid!) to give one more time. It can definitely be a chore (for me! Ha!) so I understand where you're coming from.
Hello! You ARE a popular blogger- at least in my book! I don't know how those other blogs do it- they must have really, really large families?! :)
Oh,
and I like icecream too! See I told you that I felt you on a lot of these!
Oh sweetie,
You wrote a list of the things you do in one morning, (assuming you get up on time ;) that put me to shame.
You are VERY organized! But, you also have 4 very young children and a husband, and you work.
You've got a lot of balls in the air so when one drops or possibly just gets wobbly I'm sure it's overwhelming.
The things you've listed, however, are very very common, and if those are the challenges you're facing, I'd say you're doing really well on this mama brigade.
Brad and I just had our first overnight away from the kids since T was born 5 years ago. I was feeling the same way... wondering if we just didn't have it anymore... turns out, we've just been busy. If you and Jeff had it, and you are still working well as a team, you've still got it. You just have to let those babies grow up a little so you can get some time alone to finish a conversation.
You two have been together long enough that I'm sure you've experienced the ebb and flow of marriage before having kids. It's hard to think of having kids as being a strain on the marriage because we love them so darn much, but it is a strain on your time, which means you just don't have as much time for eachother. Again, those babies won't be babies forever. Just keep your friendship strong for now and the spice will come back.
If you need more underwear to stretch the laundry and you can handle the big loads when you do them, get more underwear. Just not on ebay.
The ebay thing... that's the thing to keep in check. If it's becoming more about the rush than acquiring things you actually need, and if you're spending money senselessly rather than saving by using it, than cut yourself off. It's not heroine, but you are using it to release stress and it's in turn creating stress. Close your account or create stronger filters and instead take the kids for a walk.
Most importantly- go easy on yourself. You have a lot of stress - good stress- but stress none the less. if you can acknowledge to yourself that that's what it is, and give yourself a break instead of questioning yourself, than you'll be doing O.K.
We all love you.
oh my gosh, where do i even begin with my response. ok, i will start with the ice cream. i adore it, especially in the summer after a hot afternoon of playing outside. but really, i will eat it anytime. as for change? i am the same way...crave it, but hate it at the same time. i think for me it is the concept of change that i hate, but once it is in motion i love it. do i make any sense at all? you made me laugh with recognition at the ebay thing...i used to be there, thankfully i moved onto etsy. wait, not thankfully. now i just buy without a thrill. my house is a mess, i can barely keep up with anything + although my marriage is strong, we too have hit a plateau. there just aren't enough hours in the day, i think. and our world isn't built to encourage us to accept things the way they are, we all want more. always.
I share many of your concerns! I want to write more but I have to get my daughter out the door to a friends house. I'll be back!
Has your brain met mine and become friends because I have the same thoughts.
I am addicted to Etsy. It is a problem.
I like ice cream....and chocolate....and stuff that generally isnt good for me.
I feel like my life has hit a plateau. I dont have much to look forward to which makes me get in a major funk.
And the blog thing. I am amazed to find bloggers who have hundreds even thousands of followers. How do they do it? What is it that gets people to like them so much?
Oooo I could go on and on.
((hugs))
1.) I start feeling anxious and stressed out and like I can't put my finger on the problem when I start letting the house duties slip. I find that even though I'm too lazy to "clean" it...it still bugs me. When my house is clean I'm not as irritated.
2.)I'm having similar problems with Etsy. The shops that I like sell one of a kind tops for 60 to 100 dollars a piece...and I can't resist. I've been RATIONALIZING spending this money on tops that I can't ever TRY ON. I love them. They're cute...but once the purchase is made and there's no going back....a little guilt.
3.) I hate laundry.
4.) The thing about blogging if you get caught up with the comparing and wanting more...is that there is always going to be someone better and more popular than you (at least in your eyes). I try not to read blogs that make me feel inadequate and just be happy with how great my own blog is doing and feel good about the great bloggy friends I've met because of it.
5.) There is no sex. There is. no. sex. We don't have it and I don't want it. Like ever again. I just don't care about it at all. So no help to you there.
I think a lot of people can relate to how you're feeling right now...I do. Just thinking about it makes me want to go buy a new top.
...off to ETSY!!!
I think it's clear basedupon the previous comments taht you aren't alone! I think we're all struggling with the same things (for me it's particularly the sex and the laundry. Well, the ice cream, too.), but often times no one want to come out and admit it. For me I try to acknowledge it (you've done this), own it (again, done) and then be aware of it and frame my actions to daily life in such a way that I'm trying to do better.
Chin up! You're kicking butt and taking names, what else can you ask for :)
I don't know about you Jen but I turn to God during these times. He is TRULY the only one that WILL NEVER DISAPPOINT. Here is my fave verse-because most of the time I'm a nervous wreck too LOL
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Phillipians 4:4-7
Hope this helps Plus, I am doing a bible study right now called "LIES WOMEN BELIEVE AND THE TRUTH THAT SETS THEM FREE." Great book about all the lies us moms believe-lots of which you mentioned in your post. We don't have to be perfect.
Hugs and Prayers!
Jen
Wow.
You sure put a lot out there my friend. So much that many of us can relate to. Especially the ice cream part. LOL But seriously.
I would love to see a sex discussion post! I'm curious as to how wives/moms juggle everything else AND sex. I could SO do without it most of the time.
I hope that you can find peace in knowing that you are not alone...trust me.
I have learned that keeping up with the Jones' is pointless and impossible. There is always someone that has more and does more. Be content in what you have, more doesnt mean better. This applies to the blog too!
The sex thing makes me laugh because I think this is something every woman struggles with or will eventually. It really does feel like one other chore to cross off your list most of the time.
I do laundry a couple times a week so I am totally with ya there! I wish someone could come over and just do the laundry and dishes for me.
The sex discussion alone will solve many of your problems. You will know what other bloggers think on this, your marriage will probably benefit, and your blog will be more popular. Everybody wants to know about sex. I promise I'll comment if you write about it :)
I hate laundry, too. I usually designate one day a week to just do it all, unless Gabe pees his bed...
I think it's the change in seasons, you know, the ides of March and all. Makes people edgy. I felt like this all last week.
Hang in there, Jen. This, too, shall pass.
I completely feel you!!!!
I hate laundry and unfortunately I cannot go more than a week or it is a complete mess!!!
I love Ebay...I have avoided it for awhile and that is a good thing! I myself have won too many auctions just for the thrill of winning.
I can't imagine trying to staying organized (as far as toys go) with triplets and a big brother!!! I was sooooo super anal with my son (now 16) and by time I had my daughter (almost 9) it was a lot harder to keep the toys so organized!
I just had another thought...LOL!!!! About popular blogs...I wonder too. I almost gave up on the whole thing, but I have been getting some comments....I must say it is frustrating. I am still new, so who knows what is to come. I always think to myself...If only I could be witty or something like that and it will help...Let me know what you some up with!!!!
I so love your honesty!!!!!!!! Ok, I cannot say this on my blog because my in laws read it and also because it's mostly recipes BUT if I told you the last time we had sex I think you would feel better. People look at us and probably think we have it often but we let life get in the way too. We let everything else come first. And then when we do want to, one is sick or Aunt Flo comes into town. I should be having more sex with my hot hubs and I am NOT. As for the other stuff, I don't let the things I can't control bother me, only the things that I can control. And as far as popularity, girl, I look at you like one of the populars. Don't sweat it. I know I am not much help but even those like myself who aren't talking about not having everything in balance, DON't have everything in balance. Come on down to FL, we'll getcha tires balanced!!!!!!!
With the exception of the ebay thing (I just don't get it!) I can totally relate to everything.
As far as the marriage thing goes...yep, I think ups and downs and everywhere in between is normal. The point is continuing to make your spouse a priority and realizing that it's just "one of those times" and pushing through until you get to a better time.
Laundry. Arg.
I have like 15 followers. You have like 150+. You win. =P
Keeping up with the Jones...yep, I keep wanting to do that and then realizing that I probably never will. I've decided it's not so much in keeping up with them, as it is learning to be content with myself.
Sex. I'm with the book thing. Twilight boosted my sex life for a while. It's another thing that, I think, is one of those up and down times. Just a part of life...
I love change but freak out when it happens.
Toys. Recently, when my kids were at their grandparents for a weekend, I just got sick of all the toys we had but they never played it. So, I either goodwill-ed or put away well over 1/2 the toys out, leaving only the ones they really enjoy. So far, they haven't noticed, except for my oldest asking for one item, and my family room is now a LOT less cluttered and they seem to enjoy playing in there more as well.
I better go eat some ice cream now as I'm contemplating all this and how it applies to my life now! Breyers Vanilla Fudge Brownie is my current favorite. Either that or Moosetracks with Peanut Butter Cup mixed in.
I'll tell you, Jen, there are days where I feel EVERY SINGLE ONE of these. More days than I care to say. Most days, though, I just feel one or two, and I count those as good days. I'm coming to terms with the fact that life is not perfect. The house, the kid, the marriage, the laundry, none of it is perfect. But we get through each day and try to find as much happiness as we can.
I can relate to SO many of these things!
With eBay, I finally decided that I couldn't watch the auctions end because I got too caught up in the fervor. I just put my high bid and hoped for the best. Funny thing is that whenever I didn't win, I really didn't care that much. ;)
Go to dairy queen right now, and get the mint oreo blizzard. Then lavish in the fact you are up there in the blogging world with Mr.Lady, and Lee with MWOB. I love your honesty, and want to copy this post-hand it to my husband-and ask him to a least think about it! mmmmmm....go to the naughty store with some girly friends and plan a night...fun and entertaining with both parties :)
thanks again for posting what most of us only think and can not put into words :)
i do miss these posts...they are my fav. here we go...
1. i have etsy love...it's ok. ebay rocks, but it sucks when i don't win. i'm not a good loser.
2. marriage is hard...and i'm glad you are noticing the plateau. do something about it. go somewhere alone with da man! hawaii? take me too, please. i won't talk and will sleep on the beach.
3. i hate laundry. it should do itself. i support buying new underwear.
4. sex. energy=starbucks.
5. find contentment...this is very,very hard. reread matthew 6.
6. i love to change things, but hate the mess.
7. i have labeled zippered boxes in the toy room that i insist the toys be put into. yep, we're nuts.
8. i love ice cream too!
Sometimes I REALLY want to do posts like this...and so I do.
I don't know all the answers, but I admire you for putting it all out there.
I do the same thing with toys. And sex. No, not sex toys.
But with organizing toys and then wanting to keep it that way and then realizing that's dumb and a waste of time. And trying to keep the sex life alive and struggling.
And wondering about big bloggers, sometimes I just don't know...
In short...I think you rock! :)
I forgot to mention, my husband sent me this article about how to be a successful blogger and one of the big things is networking. This one guy in the article said he spends 8 or more hours a day reading and commenting on blogs. THAT is work, but maybe that's the kind of thing you have to do.
I have those days, boy do I have those days. What gets me is when I want to have sex and Aaron doesn't. It makes me feel like crap!! Like "hey! you're the man...you are supposed to ALWAYS want it!!". Then I mentally smack him on the back of the head and walk away. But I do have my sneaky ways. For example...Aaron almost always goes to bed after me. However, I make him come up stairs and "tuck me in". I know it sounds like I'm a baby but it's nice. Most nights it just us cuddling for a few minutes and just saying I love you. But sometimes it becomes the "hey baby, you here to tuck me in?" time! It keeps it interesting because we never know when the moment will hit. Plus I feel all loved before I go to bed because this time has dragged him away from TV, computer, for video game just for me!!
As for ice cream. We have a love hate relationship. I LOVE it and it loves my butt and stomach a little too much which makes me hate it more than I can tell you!! Damn creamy goodness..........
Oh, so many things to comment on but you've already received lots of great comments so I won't waste more space here except to say:
-you're a great blogger and I love reading ya, as do many others.
-I'm pretty much on the same page with every statement you made. Wish I had some answers.
-re: keeping up with the Joneses - I feel this a lot and it's one of the reasons I'm doing a little gratitude exercise with the family this month. check out today's post on Crumbs for deets.
I don't think you'd be a fully feeling and functioning human being if you didn't question all of these things every once and a while. It's good to give all of this stuff a chance to be thought about, discussed, fought about (possibly) and resolved in some fashion, even if just to set it aside for a while. And, in the aspirational words of Dory - "Just keep swimming, just keep swimming..." ;-)
Whoa girl...we can approach these thoughts one of two ways.
1. This is completely normal and everyone feels these things some or most of the time.
2. You are just weird.
I think I vote for number one since I've totally had all of those except the 'I sorted and organized all the toys'. I kinda gave up on that...see my procrastination post for further explanation.
You can laugh at things and that always makes it better. How about a glass of wine tomorrow at 9pm? You there and me here..and it's like we are having a drink together! (heh, I'll use any excuse to break out the wine!)
Oh sweetie! The other girls are right, you're not alone. I think these are things that everyone goes through, seasons. You'll come out of it. Keep your head up, and work on the things you want to change. You can do it! The laundry thing though, I wish I could last two weeks... I don't know how that would ever happen! Let's go get some ice cream together!
:)
~Tabitha~
freshmommyblog.com
married life is hard. recently I came across a similar website that discusses only problems related to marriages.
www.marital-problems.net
Awwww....we all have these moments, don't we? Good for you for putting it out there and look how supportive the blogging community is.
I bet you feel better already!
That's a lot on your mind. I hear ya though. I don't usually have energy for sex. I'm always after the boys to clean up, I hate always fussing at them, I want to be a WILDLY popular blogger, but I'm not sure how to take it to the next level, and I both love and hate change.
I LOVE this post! Love it. I think I have a lot of the same things on my mind. Well except for the laundry. Because I live with a laundry queen. Who will not let me touch her machines.
And you must write about sex. I so want to write about sex. But with way too many family members reading my blog...and my own daughter...I have to ummm...ignore it. In my blog. Only in my blog. Have you read those books? :-)
My new fave post from you! So much tasty goodness here.
Let's see...
Laundry is my life.
I don't have enough sex.
I don't understand why certain bloggers are famous and why others are still unknown.
I need to order something off eBay today, in fact.
And I'd like to have more sex. But honestly...I'm too tired.
I love Cold Stone Creamery. Thanks for making me crave it. You dork.
I think that with 157 followers and this being the 37th comment you are one of THE most popular bloggers I know! I have a measly 12 followers and I am lucky if I get 5 comments.....
I think all of your worries (or just thoughts) are very common - I know I have all of them..
Oh you do have a lot on your mind! I'm right there with you on the marriage plateau thingy... nothing is wrong, but it feels a lot like groundhog day. No spice right now... and of course, not a lot of sex either... Which is quite another topic. I too would love more sex, though I'm so darn tired at the end of the day and it takes too much energy.
Hope you feel better soon! Sick parents are no fun.
just found your blog today. I was with you all the way, until I got to how many comments you receive. Really? Think you probably are one of those super popular bloggers. I have yet to break 10 comments with any one post. If you do break free and have the sex discussion, I'm there.
Ditto. Ditto. Ditto.
Except for ice cream. I'm more a cupcake kind of chick.
Hugs my friend. Em
when I went through a flat zone with sex, we started to do it every day. At first I dreaded it. I was like CRAP! something else I have to do... then I got to the point where i got cranky if the kids wouldn't leave us alone for happy fun time.
We are, ah, normally pretty active but if we are stressed, we have to keep it in the mix even when we dont feel like it. We are both more relaxed in the end.
Also, I totally made it as game. there's a book out there called the sex diet or something so for fun, I followed that for awhile.. which basically is have sex all.the.time. It really was fun.
I am thinking you should hire out the laundry to a teenager. There are lots of kids around looking to make a few bucks and then you wouldnt have to do it at all. (Ok, I get that putting it away is no fun either, but at least it will be done and folded!)
Wow....that is a lot of stuff.
Buy more underwear. It will make you feel like you are gaining control over something. It is clear to me that you are exhausted after reading this post. (I honestly don't know how you could be anything else.) Sometimes more laundry is less laundry. I have done it myself.
About being content, If you were content for too long you would never move forward in life. Wanting more out of life is part of the plan. Figuring out what it is that will make you the happiest is the bigger challenge. Pick and choose and then prioritize so you feel like you have some control over it.
Oh, Sex....my favorite topic here. There could be so many things going on here that I am not sure where to give my two cents worth. I know you mentioned PCOS. That can really mess with your drive so to say. So can the tired. If it's just the thrill you are missing, then I suggest leaving your husband flirty messages and love notes in random places. My favorite is to send a very distracting text message when I know my husband is in a meeting. The more flirting that goes on around here the more action that happens, so to say. Also, morning sex before work is highly under-rated. Seriously, the day hasn't already sucked the life force out of you. Besides that, hormones are are better levels for such activities and it is highly entertaining to send your husband off to work with that silly grin on his face.
I am the same way about change. If you are weird, then I am too.
Hang in there my freind. You need a vacation. Just you, like a momcation. It is amazing how refreshed you feel after having a couple of good nights sleep and some time to yourself to do what ever you feel like doing. Maybe when you and Jeff get better he'll let you have a few days at a spa or where ever it is that makes you happy. Hugs!
I'm with ya, sister! I could've written this post myself!
Sometimes when we hit this place, it's a sign that we are releasing the old to make room for new and wonderful energies!
Be gentle with yourself and just focus on the moment. This too shall pass, my sweet friend:
Oh I know so how you feel. Gosh, live just sometimes drags on and on and on. And sex, what's that? We are way to tired.
i feel you. my parents have been married for 31 years and had four kids... my mom says they went through years at a time where she felt like that... we've been married 6 years and i can say sex with kids is rough... and we have half as many as you. i think the fact that you're cognizant of the issues and keeping the lines of communication open is in and of itself a really great step towards closing the gap.
Sex? What's that?
Wow, Jen, I love your "say it like it is" philosophy!! You've probably written a lot of what many women wonder about it but are afraid to ask outloud!!
So here are my answers:
First off, I'm happy to know I'm not the only mother who continues to buy new underwear for her children in the hopes that it'll save me from doing the laundry just 3 more days.
Secondly, on the marriage platuea...I think that's totally normal. I think you read one of my recent posts about my marriage and how we watched Fireproof together. I think marriages take a lot of work and energy, which are both unfortunately something we lack sometimes due to our hectic lives as parents. I think as long as you have a good solid foundation to always fall back on, you're good to go!! The bottom line is that the friendship you have with one another...that never goes away.
On the blogging, I'm not sure what makes some bloggers more popular than others. Maybe it's the content on their blogs or maybe they just have 1000 family members who read their blog. Who knows? I think, like you said, it's more about quality than quantity. As long as you have a good connection with your readers, that's all it takes. And I do think you have that....I love when I see your comments on my blog and I totally enjoy your blog! When it starts to feel like a virtual friendship between you and your readers...now that's awesome!
Lastly, the sex....oh, the sex. Where to start? Well, since we're being blunt here....we don't have sex very often. Seriously, we did the deed the other night and neither of us could even remember when we'd had sex last before that. Both of us are always so tired and it's the last thing on our minds but I also know it's the ONE thing that helps us connect. It makes me feel closer to him. I once saw on Oprah a lady saying that if you have sex one day a week with your spouse, it will improve your marriage tremendously and I do believe there is something to that. Not that I'm nodding my head in agreement to have sex with my husband once a week, but when we do have that intimacy together, it definitely does seem to improve things between us.
I can totally relate to you other than the blogging envy. I like to blog and one day I may have a few followers, but the pressure to blog for hundreds of people would kill me!
We've been married 15 years and are recently going through a dry spell. It's driving my husband crazy, but I'm just not in the mood lately!
I don't mind laundry, but I HATE dishes. We dirty SO many dishes each day that I think I am going to get RID of dishes so that the kids don't feel the need to dirty forty of them before washing ONE. (I'm the one washing the one or the FORTY!) Ugh. I HATE DISHES.
okay I came here last week and was commenting and then got interrupted and had to come back - just made it - sorry - this was a great post - literally - you could have downloaded it from my brain!
EBAY- I have been banned from ebay by hubs! (hee hee)
TOYS- we have way too many and I spend over an hour eVERY night picking up the damn things!
Laundry- NEVER ENDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Bloggers - NO CLUE for you - miss Thing!
Marriage - I think being the best parents gets in the way of being the best partner - at least for us.
Sex - well, we are in baby making mode - so we have it - but is it exciting - nope - literally my husband will just look at me and roll his eyes now! How did that happen? I was hoping to see better answers here for this question - I think you need to devote a post to just this topic!
50 comments on a single post and you are wondering how to become a popular blogger? I jump for joy if I get more than 3 comments on a single post. Seriously don't beat yourself up over that one.
Sex-well, yea. I wish I had an answer for you. People keep telling me that sex is better in your 30's because his drive diminishes a bit and mine revs up a bit so we are finally on equal ground as far as how often we want it.....but we haven't hit that magical day yet. I for one would be willing to have sex more often if it wasn't so messy. It's not the sex I'm adverse to, it's all the clean up afterwards. If it was like in movies where you just roll over and go to sleep I'd sure be having it a lot more!
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