I had a very special afternoon planned for Hayden and I. It has been a very long time since I spent any one on one time with him, so I got a babysitter and the two of us went out. I had some errands to run but I also planned to go and spend sometime at the library and possibly get a special ice cream treat.
We went to the store first and got done what I needed to get done and then headed to the library. Hayden loves the library and he was really excited. I could just see it in my head, we would sit together reading a stack of book, talking about life and discussing the books as we read. It was going to be so grand, some real quality time together.
When we got to the library, Hayden went to the play area and I set off to find some books to read. I came back with a large stack but Hayden was no where to be seen. I set the books down and went to look for him. In not to much time, I found him. He was at the computer, head phones on, playing a game, oblivious to the world around him. I went over to him and tapped him on the shoulder. He gave me a quick sideways glance but continued to play.
"Hayden, come on. I got lots of fun books. Lets go read together."
"Maaaaoooom! Can't you see that I am busy. I have to get the treasure. We can read later."
I stood there, taken a back and honestly really hurt. I sulked off to a near by chair and sat down. How dare he ruin my special plans for Hayden and mommy time? Not fair. I sat there for about 10 more minutes sulking before I made him stop so that we could leave. Needless, to say there was no ice cream.
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Oh, I feel your pain! I'm so sorry to hear he has grown up on you so fast and hurt you this way. :(
My teenage girls (really 6 and year olds) break my heart like this daily!
Your sulk time was miraculous! It would have taken me days to get over that!!
Your posts keep me going Jen!!
Hmmm, I know exactly how you're feeling. It's hard to let go of your "ideal" plans for the day...I had the same experience with Isabel last year.
I'm sure Hayden had a great time just being with you, even if it wasn't how you had planned. Sometimes you've just got to go with it.
7 year old.
I swear that 7 was there when I hit publish. That's weird??
Oh, it's so sad when something happens and you can't deny that they're growing up, huh? I still offer my hand for my kids to hold when we are out and about, and my 8year-old occasionally balks at it, but he will still hold my hand (mostly out of pity for me, I think!) I can't help it! I want them to stay little!!
I'm sorry your lovely plans were ruined by your little MAN! *sigh*
I have a million stories of rejection from Jay ... I know he loves me but if he ever steps too much out of line, I also know I can always pick him up from school wearing pajamas and a snorkle.
ah, I had my own little version of this yesterday. My Adam is usually begging to sit in my lap and snuggle and just be with me. So yesterday I pulled him into my lap and asked him to tell me about his Sunday School Class. "I don't have time mom. I want to play. And if I talk to you I won't have time to play."
I am dreading the day...
Oh how I sympathize with you. I clearly remember the day my boy did that same thing to me, not at the library though.
It's so hard to watch them grow up right before your eyes. Especially when you still want to spend the extra special time with them.
I'm going to try exactly that tomorrow. We'll see how it goes.
Oh, I know those days. When you have planned something special. Or paid for an event. And your kids just hold thier hands over their ears and whine. And you just want to scream "you will like this. You will have fun."
Good times...
Oh, I know those days. When you have planned something special. Or paid for an event. And your kids just hold thier hands over their ears and whine. And you just want to scream "you will like this. You will have fun."
Good times...
Oh I am so very understanding of what you are going through. Not with my two boys yet, thank God! But it seems everytime I plan something fun for my step-son, he does something like that! And then I pout and am hateful! LOL!
Yeah, that would hurt. Especially if you are a reader (duh, you write a blog, so I'm guessing your a big reader, too). We Moms have those "reading to my child" dreams, don't we?
My special, secret dream is to share my love of history with Elizabeth. I will die when she says, "I hate this stuff, Mom," and grabs a video game.
I'm giving you a big hug...it's okay honey!
sending lots and lots of hugs to you...nothing sucks more than a moment like that as a mommy :(
Look at it this way. He must feel secure in your love and get enough time with you that he's not worried. :o)
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:( I'm sorry. That is sad, and I know that day will be here before I'm ready. Don't worry - he loves you lots.
I get the same reaction from Graham. It's either the TV or the computer.
I still have Dottie... you still have the babies.. enjoy them while you can.
Yes, I've come to realise that special times I plan with my kids are just my own pipe-dreams. Sometimes I wish they could have a Free-will-ectomy, but I know I'd regret that.
I plead with mine to quit growing. They tell me they can't. Good luck. My sister started playing video games with her son when he turned six so he would hang out with her.
He's lucky you let him play for 10 more minutes!
I, too, think your sulk time was impressive. I would have been moaning about it all day.
Perhaps he'll redeem himself by doing something really spectacular for you soon. ;-)
It's such a letdown, when things don't go as planned? Or maybe that's just me and my controlling tendencies.
But I'm sure Hayden enjoyed his one-on-one time with you :)
Today my almost 10 year old refused to hold my hand. Boo hoo!
Oh I so feel for you! We really make plans and do our best for our kids, an then they have their own ideas.
aww - no - it's starting - I dread these days!
I hear ya...you have this grand picture in your head and they are just not into it:-( Breaks your heart:-(
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