A blog is a personal thing. It is a place for a person to write things, sometimes deep emotional troubling things. Why do people have to go and say hurtful things to a person who just needs to pour out her feelings and thoughts? I just don't get this. What ever happened to the rule, if you don't have something nice to say then don't say anything at all?
Now I am not saying that we have to agree with everyone and everything that people put out there but I don't think that you have beat someone up or belittle them during an already difficult time.
It is just not right. Where is your sense of compassion? We need to build each other up and put someone down who is already down pretty low.
*Edited* I just wanted to add that, I realize that blogging is a public. That once you hit publish, you are opening yourself up to others and the good, the bad and the ugly things that they might say or think. But I don't think that gives a person the right to lay into that person. Life is hard and we should be able to put our thoughts and feeling out there without fear of being ridiculed. It is not all 'sunshine and unicorns' and if that is all you blog about then you are not being real and I don't want to read it.
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Alright, enough on that. Maybe that was more than a blog fart but I needed to say it. Now onto the funny/cute stuff.
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I just love this photo.
I love how just Hayden in is focus.
I love the look on his face, shy and sweet but full of life.
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I love how just Hayden in is focus.
I love the look on his face, shy and sweet but full of life.
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The kids were at my sister's house this afternoon and when I pulled up to get them, I saw the most peculiar thing. Hayden was walking across her yard with a kitty in a fishing net. I stopped dead in my tracts and stared at this little kitty wiggling and wriggling in this net and my son just walking around with it like it was perfectly normal.
"Hayden? What are you doing?" I asked.
"Mom, I am just taking this kitty back home," he replied.
"In a net?" I said, dumbfounded by this whole scene.
"Yeah, this was the only way to catch her. Now quick go inside, its raining and the pizza is getting wet," he said.
"Oh, yeah," was my reply and I walked into the house and left Hayden to return to getting the kitty home still confused.
And then I realized, I just took orders from my 4 year old son.
Confusion will make you do strange things.
"Hayden? What are you doing?" I asked.
"Mom, I am just taking this kitty back home," he replied.
"In a net?" I said, dumbfounded by this whole scene.
"Yeah, this was the only way to catch her. Now quick go inside, its raining and the pizza is getting wet," he said.
"Oh, yeah," was my reply and I walked into the house and left Hayden to return to getting the kitty home still confused.
And then I realized, I just took orders from my 4 year old son.
Confusion will make you do strange things.
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Jeff was a good to me this anniversary.
Look at my awesome flowers.
I would show you the chocolate but its all gone.
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Look at my awesome flowers.
I would show you the chocolate but its all gone.
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Our latest choice of music while riding in the car had been 'Boom Boom Pow' by the Black Eyed Peas. Hayden just LOVES this song. He breaks out this his little getto boy seat dance when ever it comes on. I too love a good car seat dance, so I turn up the music and we all jam out.
On this particular night, Hayden kept asking me to turn it up, I would but he kept wanting it louder and louder. I realized it was because I had the speakers in the back of the van turned off. So I switch them back on so that the music could surround us.
Well, just as I did this I happened to look in my rear view mirror at Jake. As the music pumped through the van, his little eyes were as wide as saucers and he had this look of terror on his face. He kept looking from side to side try to figure out where the 'noise' was coming from.
The whole scene was just too funny. I almost peed myself from laughing so hard. And well, laughter is contagious so pretty soon the kids were laughing. Let me just say it was a great ride home.
On this particular night, Hayden kept asking me to turn it up, I would but he kept wanting it louder and louder. I realized it was because I had the speakers in the back of the van turned off. So I switch them back on so that the music could surround us.
Well, just as I did this I happened to look in my rear view mirror at Jake. As the music pumped through the van, his little eyes were as wide as saucers and he had this look of terror on his face. He kept looking from side to side try to figure out where the 'noise' was coming from.
The whole scene was just too funny. I almost peed myself from laughing so hard. And well, laughter is contagious so pretty soon the kids were laughing. Let me just say it was a great ride home.
38 comments:
COuld I really be first? Wow. So who was your friend who left blogging? Do I know her too? That IS sad. LIFE is just full of negativity and women who don't band together, that's why I love blogging.
I haven't experienced any of that BUT I have heard of many who have and I don't get it either. I like what Tiffany says from SITS. Some people think it's all unicorns and roses (something like that) but she likes it that way. And guess what, so do I. There's enough BS everywhere else.
That is a shame about the blogger friend. I hate when people are nasty to others. Let the people vent!
Enjoyed the blog farts today.
That song rocks - a favorite in our Rolling Disco as well.
I'm so sorry to hear about your blogging buddy. I've been MIA a lot lately - I'm hoping it wasn't one of my regular haunts - I don't understand why some people have to be so cruel. If your life is so stinking miserable that you want to dogpile on someone going through a difficult time, do us all a favor and get yourself some help.
Happy Friday my dear! And happy belated anniversary - gorgeous flowers :-)
Awe, thanks for the little blurb.
I guess one lesson I learned from my blog is that a blog really ISN'T a personal thing. It's a public web site, and stuff that is posted on a public website is inviting comments from all kinds of people--supportive, mean, or just plain crazy cat lady. The only personal blog is a private one.
It also hit me that anyone can read it, including ex-boyfriends, the OTHER WOMAN, people from church, and maybe--in the future--kid's in my daughter's school. My blog wasn't anonymous enough to vent about the things happening to me.
I totally agree that if you can't say something nice--don't leave a comment! But when you write something and hit publish, you have to be prepared for whatever comments come back to you.
that completely SUCKS! & i agree 100%. i think we easily forget that no matter how different we are we still have atleast 1 common bond and that is womanhood LOL no matter how you do it... and that is hard enough without us verbally beating each other up.
ROFL i have found myself taking orders from my children SEVERAL times... but shhh... we don't want that to get out...
LOVE the flowers. you guys are a beautiful couple.
chris who???? ;)
I am sorry to hear about the blog shut down. If people don't like a blog, the author, the writing, whatever...ummm...don't read it. There is no need to be nasty.
Those flowers? Gorgeous!
And my girls are all about their "Boom, boom, Pow!"
It makes me sad to hear about people being unsupportive. I don't know why some people insist on creating drama. Sad.
TOO funny about taking orders from your son. That sounds like quite the sight! ha!
Beautiful flowers and beautiful picture of the two of you. You look gorgeous!! So relaxed and very naturally happy.
That is sad about your blogger friend. I think it's OK to disagree with people but do it with encouragement, compassion, and love.
Just like all the others said, yes blogs are public and on the internet for others to find. But if someone doesn't like what I have to say, then just don't read it! I got some comments when I first started my blog and almost quit writing, but I decided I started this for me, and only me!
Those flowers are really pretty.
Sorry to hear about your friend shutting down the blog. People are so dumb and inconsiderate.
A kitty in a net...interesting. Very funny that your confusion led to you taking orders from your son!
That is horrible that a good blogger had to shut down because of other people!! That sucks!
I love those other pictures and stories!! It is quite a twist from the beginning of the post:-)
That photo of the kids on the swings made me laugh - all I could think was that your family takes up the entire swing set!! LOL! I'm still in awe of your mothering skills...
Really crappy about losing one of your favourite blogs. One thing about this world, there's no shortage of angry people who want to make others feel badly. Not sure what we can do about this except keep putting out as much good karma as we can and hope it comes back.
Congrats again on the anniversary. Lovely picture of the two of you!
I don't understand people desire to be mean to other people. Didn't they learn to play nice with the other kids in the sand box?
Ok, I LOVE the B&W shot of the kids on the swing. You HAVE to frame that one. It looks like it could be shown in a gallery. :)
I really miss Jaci's blog too, I had no idea what happened to her. I think we should all gang up on who ever it was that was being a jerk and kick a little sense into them :)
Just checking out your blog and wanted to let you know I.love.it! I'll be back for sure!
Kate
That picture is really cool. Very artsy-fartsy. Did you take it in B&W or did you change it on photoshop?
I know what you mean about lifting people up with our comments. I guess I kinda feel like the blogs I read, and esp. the people who comment back to me and read mine, are like my little network of friends. I love it! And I feel like that's what a lot of people are looking for. It just sucks that random lurkers and people who feel like "You need to hear MY opinion!" are such douchebags. Sorry, I haven't said that word in a long time but it's warranted here.
Occasionally I come across a blog that I don't click with, and I just hit the "x" in the corner. It's not my place to judge what they write. That is their corner of the world and they are entitled to write whatever they want.
I don't why people have to be so nasty sometimes. ~sigh~
Your flowers are beautiful!
I love the conversation with Hayden. A little boy with a cat in the net is priceless. And to think he was actualy being helpful not mischievious.
Awww @ the car story.
And well OF COURSE THE CHOCOLATES ARE GONE. I could forgive forgotten anniversary flowers as long as there were awesome chocolates. As a matter of fact who needs flowers? Bring on the chocolate!
And about the blog. I subscribe to, if you don't like it don't read it. And given that a blog post is only a slice of one person's perspective, I don't think we're equipped to really judge someone based on a little venting. Maybe she can still blog, but keep it private and just share with some loyal followers by inviting just them?
So sad about the blog. Hate to hear the negative things that happen in blogland.
Love the photo of the swings and the flowers were gorgeous (and so are you; you look so pretty in that picture!)
We love us some BBP, too. Although Gabe's fave is the song right after, whose title I can never remember.
I love making my kids laugh!
Oh I agree- why be nasty!
The flowers are just awesome. And I love that song but gosh,did you see Fergie's body? I have a whole post milling in my head about that song.
First off, let me saw the flowers and YOU look beautiful! What a sweet hubby!
How funny about the car seat dancing and the music suddenly getting loud in the back. Love those moments that end with giggles all around!
awww that's so sad!! that sucks that someone ruined her blogging experience...truly sucks!! but the flowers were pretty! and i love that you took orders from a 4 yr old...i often find myself doing the same thing!!
I came close to shutting mine down due to a family member (not a close one) flipping outo about a personal post. She still doesn't understand that she did wrong and has no contact with me now. Que sera sera.
Love that photo,the blurry and the focus is right on.
Do you think it would be ok if I used the net to get my toddler home? He's also hard to handle. :)
That is just the funniest thing about his astonishment over the music! And the fact you took orders from your child whilst he carried a cat in a net to its rightful home.
Coming from a blog delete expert....never say never. She may come back after a while. I hope she does.
Sorry to hear about your friend, it's too bad people have to ruin it for others by being rotten like that.. and those flowers were beautiful! Yay hubby!
Wow, I am so sorry to hear about the blogger...but I know exactly what you mean. People have been inappropriate to my husband (i.e. telling him to stop grieving after less than 3 months following his brother's death this year) it is really disheartening.
Oh the flowers were awesome. Sweet hubby! I was just sad not to be able to share in the joy of the chocolate :)
That really sucks about your friend's blog...what a shame. If people have nothing nice to say, why even bother saying it?? I mean, especially if she was using her blog as a source of venting....geez, haven't people heard of "just move on if you don't like it".
Love the pic of the kids on the swing....that is funny that Hayden's face is the only one in focus!
I take orders from Cole and Bella all the time without even realizing it, until after the fact of course.
I am so sad for C. I hate that she had to delete her blog because of some miserable person. I will miss her so much!
LOVE the swings photo! Just adorable.
I don't understand the hatefulness of some people. I am so sorry for your friend!
I left you an award on my blog. Come by and get it! :)
So sorry about your friend! I agree with another commenter, too many women drag each other down...I think that's why I could never work in an all-female environment (like L&D :P )
I hope you get an enlargement of that beautiful swing photo and have it framed!
Paige's favorite song is "That's Not My Name" by the Ting Tings. It's been a lifesaver a few times in the car when she's antsy on a long trip!
I don't want Jaci to go either, but she makes a lot of sense. I hope she just makes herself anonymous and still blogs without names and what not. She's going through so much...it would suck not to have that outlet.
ps Remind me not to allow Hayden to cat sit for us.
I just found out a blog that I read is about to go black and it makes me sad too.
Those flowers are gorgeous, and you kids are cute as always!
I LOVE that swing picture.
And I too think it's sad when people are just plain mean and nasty in comments or emails. It's fine to disagree, but why the hate? I just don't get it.
Hilarious cat/net story. I would have let my child boss me around in my confusion too!
Happy (late) Anniversary :)
Again I am saddened by the loss of our dear blogger friend Jaci. And sometimes shutting down is what is needed to be done.
I too had to shut down a blog, I was SO pissed, it was a year and a half old blog, and I felt the first few posts had to let people know I wasn't new to the game, just reinvented.
And mine too was due to a family members dirty slut of a baby momma google-ing names, and found I had put her and my cousin on blast for their nasty life style.
Sure my blog, my voice, but I learned more about me, and less about everyone else. Plus I have to use fun new names for everyone.
I miss her already.
LOVE the flowers, Happy Annivesary! You two are cute!
And Boom Boom Pow along with the rest of the BEP's The E.N.D. album is my favorite right now!
I know it's been forever since I've been here!
Queen of Feisty
Sorry to hear about your blog friend (I did read a few of her posts, but I only started reading right before she left - what a shame and I didn't read about what happened either, must of missed it). Anyway, I've had a bug up my butt about not getting enough traffic or comments on my own blog....maybe I should be glad about that?!
I wrote a post awhile back and got jumped on through email from my family and that wasn't a very pleasant feeling, so I can understand why she pulled the plug.
I loved the pic of the kids and you and your hubby make a nice couple. Such pretty flowers!
That's too bad about the blog--I wish people could play nice!
Great pics--love the swing one and you and your flowers are beautiful!
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