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I am really starting to wondering if I am going to be able to survive my triplets being two. One moment I want to slap them silly because they will not listen to me, they do the opposite of what I ask and the defiance, just flat out refusal to obey. Then in another moment, my heart is melting because of their slobbery kisses, big hugs and 'Luv oo mom!' It is enough to make me crazy.
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I am very sick and tired of the comment, "Boy, you have your hands full. Don't you?" I never really know what to say to this. I usually just smile politely and nod or I giggle nervously and say, 'Yup, they sure are full'. But sometimes on those really, really stressful days I just want to scream at the person, "YES I DO HAVE MY HANDS FULL! NOW MOVE AND STOP TALKING TO ME SO I CAN DO WHAT I NEED TO DO. YOU TRY TAKING 4 KIDS SHOPPING AND SEE HOW FULL YOUR HANDS ARE!"
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Taking my children out in public has gotten to be a joke. I am almost to the point of not doing it at all and just staying at home all the time.
No one will ride in a stroller anymore, in fact its dangerous for them to ride because they can jump out. They all want to, 'Wahk, Wahk'.
So I let them walk, but no one wants to hold my hand when we are in the parking lot. They all run ahead of me.
Do you have any idea how maddening and panicky it is to see all 4 of your children run in all directions in a busy parking lot?
I am left to scream my head off for every one to stop and make the parking lot ever more dangerous because people everywhere are paying attention to me and my ridiculous screaming and not the cars. It is so frustrating and scary that sometimes when I get back to the car and the children are safely belted into their seat, I cry.
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Ok so enough b*tching and complaining. I will now end this with some funny things that the kids are saying.
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Since Jake's surgery, he has become a baby Sean Connery. He walks around all the time say, "Yesh, Yesh." It is just so funny. I am just sad I have not caught it on video.
We were in the car. I was really frustrated and I yelled at all the kids to be quiet. It did not work. Jake kept yelling so Hayden decided to help by saying, "Jacob! Stop yelling! You are flipping Mommy off."
Hayden is playing the DS. Quinn comes over to see what he is doing. Hayden doesn't like this and tries to move but this only makes Quinn more curious so he follows each move that Hayden makes. Hayden then lets out and exasperated sign and says, "Quinn, Stop it! Mom, make Quinn stop he is totally ignoring me."
Claire is such a little lady, well sometimes. When even she farts, she needs to let the whole room know but she is a little confused because she always says, "I burp. I burp. I burp." And then runs away laughing. Such a little lady.
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Happy Birthday, Papa. We Love You so so Much!
46 comments:
Oh Jen yes, even I get the "you've got your hands full" speech and I have one less! I do not have the guts to let them walk yet - forcing them into the stroller.
Happy birthday dad!
I'm in the same boat with not leaving the house. She won't ride in a stroller, she won't walk with me, I can't carry her. I've seriously been considering a leash. Is that so wrong?
This, too, shall pass.
I haven't been to a mall with Gabe in ages. I probably could now that he's five, but why tempt fate?
Now we know why they invented those kid leashes, huh? I hate to see them, but they might just help. Or you could tie them all to a big rope...
When Maggie farts, she says "Cuse me, my butt burped!" and giggles like a mad woman!
I hope you can get Jake on video doing a Sean Connery impression!
I can still never take my kids anywhere. And they are 8 and 11. Of course, Madalyn LOVES the stroller. And is still under some strange fantasy that I will rent her a stroller when we go to Disney in a few weeks...
I love the 'flipping mom out' comment...that is priceless!
I hate those comments....the biggest one for me I hate is "are they twins" um NO I just like sex and I decided it would be a great idea to have my kids 13 months apart...don't they understand you can have your hands full with 1 kid, let alone more.....geesh
You sure have your...er, nevermind. :)
Have a great weekend!
I think we are long lost sisters that never knew about eachother until we started blogging.
Now there is an Oprah show.....
Anyways, I was actually planning to blog about people telling me "You have your hands full" and me replying with a "Yes I do. Would you like to babysit?"
LOL @ Momma.
You know what? You ARE going to make it thru this. And protecting your little ones can frazzle your nerves. Every now and again, you definitely need some alone time - away from the house.
Your kids are lucky to have a mom that treasures them like you do.
:-)
Take care,
(and my oldest gets the ignore/annoy thing mixed up all the time as well! haha)
"You are flipping Mommy off" is now my new favorite saying. Awesome.
Hang in there, sister...
I also love the "you are flipping mommy off"
I am a bit of a control freak but B was a wild toddler but as much as whined and pleaded to walk I buckled that boy into his stroller every trip until he was almost 4. He probably looked ridiculous since he is such a big boy but otherwise he would run everywhere making me crazy.
Even with my 3 big kids I prefer to not go to the store with them. Taking them school supply shopping today wish me luck!
and speaking of comments that people say to me that make me crazy. Instead of, "you have your hands full" people always say to me, "you don't look old enough to have a baby (or three kids or be a mom)." I don't know why it bothers me so much. I am a young mom and I will appreciate my "baby face" when I am older. The comment seems to nonsensical to me. I want to reply, "Of course I am old enough to have a baby (or three kids or be a mom) cause I do!"
Sorry for my rant Jen! Had to share. You probably want to scream when people always say, "you have your hands full."
So funny! But I am not going to tell you that you have your hands full. Does this mean you dont?
Ok, I try so hard to never state the obvious when I comment.
I sort of know how you feel when people constantly say to me, "Wow, you are tall." Thanks......I hadn't noticed that until you pointed it out. :)
I have 3...Olivia, who has special needs, and Gabe (they are 13 months apart) and then Matthew who is 3 years younger than Gabe but he's really big...so people always think they are all closer in age than they are...Olivia looks way younger than her age...anyway...I get the "hands full" comment all the time...what the hell are we supposed to say to that? And does it mean I look like I'm falling apart? And why don't they buy me a bottle of wine to help??
I also had the parking lot problem for a while...there was one time where Olivia went in one direction IN A CART across the parking lot while I was trying to chase the boys in the other direction...thank God it was on a Wednesday morning and it wasn't busy...phew
Feelin' ya!!
oh, the fun/annoying comments about multiples...they do wear on you, don't they? I think the worst one was last summer though, the twins weren't 2 yet and I was visibly pregnant with baby #3...and some lady looked at me, scoffed, rolled her eyes and I blocked out what she said but it was very rude and something about me having too many little kids. Mind you - at the time the twins were being VERY well behaved and most people usually comment on that and/or how cute they are...but no... this lady felt I was overpopulating. Nice...I'm hoping she didn't have any kids...
Jen, I get those comments too and then some with the whole 2 sets of twins thing. Usually I'll smile and say "Yes, but better to have hands full than empty arms and a broken heart". People are usually just so curious but they have NO clue that as they're asking a million nosy questions, my kids are about to get run over by a car.
Mine also hate the stroller these days. I had these backpack harness things that I used to make the kids wear but they hated them so I tell them unless they hold my hand, each other's hands or hold onto the cart, I'll make them wear the leases, which I conveniently keep in the car for such occasions.
Love all the things the kids are saying....it's a good thing our kids make up for the bad times with all the adorable things they do and say!
You're flipping Mommy off!!?!?! OMG, I LMAO at that one!
I know what you mean...I just have 1 two year old and feel like I can barely go anywhere.
Now, I know a lot of people are against this so just smile and move on if you are one of those people...have you considered the little leash/backpack thing? I have one for Melody and it works great those times she insists on walking.
I too hate the "you sure have your hands full" comments. I sometimes want to slap people when they say that to me. Happy birthday daddy-o!
I too don't understand the comments. I have 3 kids they are slowly getting better about going out, but I know for awhile I felt like a hermit! It was just easier to stay home. I'll be praying for you. Just know.... it does get easier, eventually they become 4...4 is SO much better then 2! :)
People mean well but they can be so dense.
I hope he has a great birthday!!
The next time someone says, "it looks like you have your hands full!" say, "Actually no. That's what muzzles are for." I bet the reaction will be priceless.
I have the same complaint about people's comments!!! We have 2 year old twins and their brother is almost a year older. The most common comments I get are:
"Are they all yours?"
"Are they triplets"
"Do twins run in your family?"
"You have your hands full"
"You must be busy"
I feel like I should wear a big button or tshirt every time I go out. It would say:
***Yes they are all mine!***No, not triplets, boy & girl twins that came 11 months after the first one. God's Plan not mine!***Fraternal twins are not hereditary!***No s**t Sherlock! What a brilliant conclusion!!! Please tell me - what was your first clue? Yes my hands are full and yes I am busy! So would you mind helping me out!!!***
Then they could read all the answers to their questions and perhaps we could have one of those nice adult conversations that I so desperately crave!
But like you I smile and nod politely!!
As for your parking lot problem, I found that the more I took mine out the more they got used to the rules. Three fit nicely in a cart. So I would always park close to the cart returns. But of course not everyone wants to ride the whole time, so as soon as a hand left the cart/stroller we left - yep turned around and went straight home, no stopping at the park, which we usually did too. I would purposely make short trips to places like Walmart for silly little things like batteries or whatever I could think of that we needed. As I was transitioning them away from the stroller I increased our trips, sometimes we went every day. And the best part about being out of the house is that it doesn't get any messier!!!
Go out often and bribe if you have to! Trips to the park are a treat if you present it that way. Or even a couple of m&m's are a treat for good listening and when they were finally buckled back in I got to eat the rest of the bag! YUM
Good luck and sorry for such a long comment - I guess I had a lot to say today :-) Keep us updated on how it is going!
I have the same complaint about people's comments!!! We have 2 year old twins and their brother is almost a year older. The most common comments I get are:
"Are they all yours?"
"Are they triplets"
"Do twins run in your family?"
"You have your hands full"
"You must be busy"
I feel like I should wear a big button or tshirt every time I go out. It would say:
***Yes they are all mine!***No, not triplets, boy & girl twins that came 11 months after the first one. God's Plan not mine!***Fraternal twins are not hereditary!***No s**t Sherlock! What a brilliant conclusion!!! Please tell me - what was your first clue? Yes my hands are full and yes I am busy! So would you mind helping me out!!!***
Then they could read all the answers to their questions and perhaps we could have one of those nice adult conversations that I so desperately crave!
But like you I smile and nod politely!!
As for your parking lot problem, I found that the more I took mine out the more they got used to the rules. Three fit nicely in a cart. So I would always park close to the cart returns. But of course not everyone wants to ride the whole time, so as soon as a hand left the cart/stroller we left - yep turned around and went straight home, no stopping at the park, which we usually did too. I would purposely make short trips to places like Walmart for silly little things like batteries or whatever I could think of that we needed. As I was transitioning them away from the stroller I increased our trips, sometimes we went every day. And the best part about being out of the house is that it doesn't get any messier!!!
Go out often and bribe if you have to! Trips to the park are a treat if you present it that way. Or even a couple of m&m's are a treat for good listening and when they were finally buckled back in I got to eat the rest of the bag! YUM
Good luck and sorry for such a long comment - I guess I had a lot to say today :-) Keep us updated on how it is going!
The "you have your hands full" comment is one that really gets under my skin too. I feel like screeming YOU REALLY STOPPED ME TO TELL ME THAT!!! I try to let it roll off my back but sometimes I snap. I can totally relate to how you are feeling now. Feel free to vent away and take comfort in knowing you aren't alone.
You have every right to vent! And isn't that question people are asking rhetorical and unworthy of being asked?
I LOVE the yesh, yesh! You HAVE to film it!
I hope your kids don't flip you off too much this weekend. ;)
Love a good b*tch.
1. I get this. I loved what your bloggy friend from Tiptoeing Through the Tulips (from your blogroll) said in her "I'm a Jerk" post - that she loves her kids so much that she wasn't to squeeze them til their little heads pop off, and that her kids drive her so crazy she wants to tear their little heads off. I so totally agreed with her, and I guess you do too hey?
2. I'm sorry about this - The Rest Of The World (including me) sometimes doesn't have anything good to say, so we fill in with the stupidest thing to say. We're idiots, and we're sorry. Maybe if we offered to help instead of saying your hands are full.
3. That sounds terrifying. I certainly avoid going places with my (two) big kids for this reason. To have four running in opposite directions, well ... you really have your hands full!
Har har harrr, sorry I couldn't help myself.
Geez I'm a sucky friend.
Save me a seat... 'cause I'm headed to Crazy Town right along with you. Oy.
I'm waiting for the day when one of my girls actually does flip me off...
And my SIL has used one of those leash-thingys on my niece before. We were out at the zoo once (I can't remember if Katie was 2 or 3) and we overheard a woman make some snide remark about how she'd NEVER use one of those things. My SIL just turned right around and said to the woman, "Oh, I never thought I'd use one, either. But if she wasn't in it, she'd be running all over the place and then you'd be making a rude comment about how I can't control my wild kid."
I almost high-fived my SIL right then and there! You go, girl!
Dude. I soooo wouldn't go out in public with 4 kids. Never. I'd lock myself in the house. I may or may not let the kids in as well. ;)
Happy bday to grandpa too!
Oh Jen! You aren't alone. let me let you in on a little secret... lots of moms with lots of littles end up feeling like you do. There was a point where i had 6 under 5 and I never went anywhere for probably 2 years, other than family member's homes. It was maddening.
Anytime you need to talk, please email me. We can share wine across the miles :)
i love that she calls farts burps instead!! too cute! and i can't wait to see the footage of little sean connery!
thx Jen I love you all and am praying for wisdom, patience, and strength as you and Jeff travel this journey together.
I think I would be just as equally frustrated as you. I know that having 6 children (albeit older and not triplets) is hard to take when going out in public. It's really hard not to just want to become a hermit and hide until they are over all the madness. Sorry you are going through such a rough patch right now....it will get easier I can tell you that. I know you are probably thinking "when" but eventually it does.
I loved reading all the cute, funny things they are into. Two is such a fun age...when you get past the crazy stuff they do lol
By some miracle, I have trained X to hold my hand whenever we get out of the car. I'm pretty sure if there were two more of him, I would not be able to make this claim =)
And I get the funny looks (and occasional comment too) when I'm out with my three kids and it is evident another will be joining us soon. WHY do people have to be so judgy??
Boy, you have your hands full!
(Sorry ... I just couldn't resist.)
I cannot imagine .. I only have 1 and some days THAT feels like too much. Just keep swimming!
If you get that comment again, you should say "well I know, and I left the other 5 at home today". I struggle with my 3 at the shops too, they all run in different directions and a 5 minute trip ends up being 20 minutes because I am chasing after them all.
Sounds like you are a great mother and doing all the right things, maybe we could skip the 2 year old stage and go right to the 5 year old stage!!
Wow, you really have your hands full! LOL! Sorry, don't hate me for saying it. I couldn't resist!
This post made me totally feel for you (having gone through very similar episodes...though with one fewer child) then laughing at your hilarious bunch.
Kids really put us through the wringer, don't they? Laugh, cry, scream...all part of the fun we get to have as moms. ;)
Can't even imagine... I do get the sitting in the car crying thing & I only have 2.
In the end of the day you are doing an awesome job... Take a deep breath because although it doesn't always feel like it...it goes SOOOO fast... Hugs- t
oh girl. i could have written this...
praying for us mommies of multiples.
You ARE buried with children...Just keep repeating "you're gonna miss this, you're gonna want this back. You're gonna wish these days hadn't gone by so fast." This from a mom whose kids are mostly grown up.
I have little patience for people making rude comments these days ... so I've been calling people out on the carpet with their snide remarks. "What did you just say?" "Were you really asking me that?" It stops people in their tracks... and really turns the table on them and their stupidity.
You know, I think when people say, you sure have your hands full they are just trying to connect for a moment : ) They could just bustle by and be annoyed with you in their head, but at least they speak. That is what I think anyway when people say that about Kaish and Naji. I just smile and say, were your boys this hyper : ). It always makes me feel better to smile and make conversation instead of being annoyed. I mean, truth be told, I spend 90% of my day annoyed about something, so I love when I can make conversation and just be happy : ).
Your babies sure are cute : )
glad to hear my kids are not the only ones who don't listen to me! I feel like I am crazy after a trip to Target! Literally I leave there in a panic - SWEATING!
oh and I forget - I heard this a while ago and now I reply when some says "oh your hands are full"
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"NOPE, My heart is"!
I WAS going to leave a clever comment, but I can't! I am still laughing with the Sean Connery impersonation!
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