When people find out that I have triplets one of the first first questions I get besides the "Are they natural?" is "Do you watch Jon and Kate Plus 8?" I usually smile politely and say, "Well, not really" and I change the subject or the kids do something to change the subject.
But the truth is that I am or I was a viewer of the show. I found the show when I was just a couple months pregnant with Quinn, Jake and Claire. My sister actually called me on the night that their very first one hour special. From the moment that I turned the TV on, I was hooked. I was a fan. I watched their second one hour and then I became a regular viewer of the show. I watched it religiously. I fell in love with this family.
But you see the truth is at that time in my life, I needed to this show. I had no idea how I was going to handle having multiples. I had no idea how I was going to manage four kids under the age of two. I found Jon and Kate and maybe they weren't the best examples, but if they could manage double the amount I was going to have with some shred of sanity, then I thought maybe I could to.
So I watched. I learned. I saw that life with multiples wasn't such a bad thing. I saw them concur challenge after challenge together as a team and I felt like Jeff and I were going to be fine.
Then as my kids grew older and became louder, I could not watch the show any more. Because at the end of the day, I wanted to sit down in silence and the last thing I wanted to so was watch a show full of little kids running around screaming. The show was just too close to my real life so I stopped.
But I still kept tabs on it. I would watch a snip-it of an episode here and there. I read about it so ultimately, I learned of all the terrible things that were happening with them. And honestly, the whole situation is just sad.
What is really sad to me is that not that show is ending because really in my book the show can end or go on, but the real sadness is how perverted everything has become. It is just sad that they have to suffer all this hurt in public. And I yes, I know that they put themselves in this place by agreeing to do the show but I also know that they didn't sign up for all this public ridicule. Can't we show them a little compassion?
But what breaks my heart the most, is that this show will not be around any longer to give help and hope to a newly pregnant mother of multiples. Because like it or not, the show did help me and for that I will always be eternally grateful.
My heart goes out to this family and I can't imagine the hurt and pain that they are all going through. I wish them well and hope that they get the help that they need.
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I'm not entirely sure the catastrophe that we are witnessing isn't manufactured by a savvy pr team.
I only had twins but they were 3 & 4. I loved the show in the beginning because it was real. Now its all manufactured and sad...
The whole situation is just sad........
I only had one baby, but I actually found the show very comforting during those early, lonely newborn months.
It used to give me needed prespective that maybe being home with one baby wasn't that hard after all.
You make some good points. I had never considered how much that show offered support to other families with multiples.
I never watched the show. I've never been much of one for reality tv of any sort, and when I was pregnant the last thing I wanted to see was a house full of screaming kids. SCARY. But it is impossible not to know what is going on with their family. My heart breaks for those kids and what they are going through. Their father has behaved abominably. No sugar coating that. Say what you will about Kate, but at least she has been discreet.
Fear not, Jen, there are other shows cropping up every day that will hopefully fill the void left by this family.
watched the finale. it was nice to see clips of the "happier" times. unfortunately, hubs and i predicted the downfall of their marriage a few seasons ago. we have been watching since the first two specials. i have only one child, so i am always fascinated by multiples. my sis has twins, my mom is a twin, and her twin had twins. don't worry, the gosselins will be back. kate's show with the kids will air in the spring and she has done a few pilots for the talk show with paula deen. jon will most likely go back to club appearances for cash and working on his shattered relationship with hailey. take care.
I liked the show in the beginning.
But then it just got uncomfortable to watch.
I wish the family would go away and focus on their family. But rumors are that Kate is getting her own show. *Sighs*
Im sad to see the show go. I know not many people agree but I dont belive the show was hurting anyone! I agree with Kate when she says it was a great experience fo rhe kids, they got to travel to different places, they were never in danger.
What an interesting take on the whole J&K+8 saga... I never really gave much thought to it helping families with multiples.
Really nicely written. They've got my compassion now :)
~Elizabeth
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It's always sad when a family breaks up but this seemed so preventable, you know?
I am actually glad to think that they helped out some people. That is a good thing. I however don't have any sympathy for anyone but the children.
I agree with Susie. I never watched the show and am glad it brought you some comfort, Jen, but I feel so sorry for those kids. When you grow up in a house with all those kids, you have a different view of "normal." Yes, they got to travel and go to Disney, etc, but how many of the kids are going to remember it? And what happens when the lights go off permanently? There will be a special or two of "where are they now?" like with the Dillys.
I watched last night. And have been a pretty loyal viewer through the years. We even have season 7 or 8 on DVD.
And after last night, well really before, I think Jon Gosselin is an ass. I don't care what kind of *itch Kate was you DO NOT cheat. Especially when you are in the public eye. I feel sorry for Kate, she really did/does love him.
She said it well in regards to their celebrity, when they signed on, they had no idea what their show on a fairly unknown cable channel would become.
I didn't watch much of the show; we never really got TLC, but I've seen it. I think they showed real life. Yes, Kate was bossy. Yes, Jon wasn't. But that is what they are like. I hope with the show gone that they can fix their marriage at least to a point where they can be friends and raise their children together.
And take comfort in that new mommies can get the DVDs. I wish a show could help moms in other situations: having trouble bonding like I did with Isaac for awhile, or a real depiction of a SAHM. You know? :)
I don't watch much reality TV myself, but I can see how this really could be a comfort to someone in a similar boat. And you're right. It IS sad.
Their main problem is they lost their love for Christ. They lost their focus. They traded that for their fame and fortune. Kate used to wear sweats and be relatable and be a normal mom and now shes all GLAM-not real! No real mom wears stilletos every day for heavens sakes!
Its a sad deal.
That must be the all time question to parents of multiples! I get that ALL THE TIME!!
I used to watch it every week, way before i found out i was having triplets. I always liked the show, it wasnt "made up" it was real. They had real fights and real issues...then it changed.
I think Jon is a jerk, bigtime, and he's got a lot of gull to say on national tv that the reason he acted the way he did was because he never got a chance to grow up, or whatever bull crap line he used. We all know that once we have kids it's not about us anymore!
I like Kate. Most would hate me for saying that, but you know what, most of the people on the hate blogs dont have kids, let alone multiples. It's freakin HARD!! It's stressful and chaotic and just plain HARD! She did what she had to do to provide for those kids, and yeah, she treated Jon like a kid, but he acted like one. I say the same things to my husband sometimes !
I read your blog all the time BTW, sorry this is my first comment :O)
I used to be a fan but in the last year or so they seemed to change and be "too wealthy" and "too famous" and no longer "real". The whole thing is so sad! The best thing for all of them would be for Jon and Kate to focus on their marriage and attempt to reconcile. I am glad the show is ending though because it has become a train wreck for the public to watch.
I've watched this show from the beginning and I'm sad that it's over.
And I'm Team Kate....Jon can suck it.
What a refreshing view! Totally refreshing! Finding the good in someone's struggle! Kudos!
....and Happy Thanksgiving!
I understand what you are saying. I feel bad for the family and the self destruction that took place. I just hope she has the emotional support she needs to get through it for the kids
I used to love the show and I think with another couple it could potentially have continued working. That relationship was just not a good one.
I never really watched it because Kate annoyed the living crap out of me.
I do feel bad for all of them and hope their lives have some semblance of normalcy once the cameras are gone.
One on hand I am sad it is over because I jave been watching it from day one too...but the show has really gottten sad so it is probabley better
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It has become ridiculous...and Jon is like Britney Spears right now...minus all the hit records.
It is really sad.
It is kind of sad isn't it?
Fellow triplet momma here! I always admired Kate for really making an effort to make sure her large brood had as "normal" a life, in terms of exposure to life etc. as possible given their obvious limitations. Lets face it---when you have 8 kids (even 5 in my case) you just don't get out as much. Your kids just are not exposed to life in the same way. It is heartbreaking that things went so terribly wrong. I think her children are now living on the total opposite end of the once hoped for vision that Kate had for them. Have enjoyed reading through your blog. How could I have missed you all these years! Are you on TC?
I never watched the show, but I have read about it and I agree that it's sad.
I am SOOOOOO GLAD the show is ending. It is not about Jon and Kate, but the children. They have both made this divorce too public and it can only hurt the children, both now and in the future. It is all on tape, so time will not erase it.
I have watched the show for a long time. It was sad to see it end. I watched because although I dont have multiples I now have 1,3,5 yr old boys. I found comfort in seeing Im not the only one who wants to pull my hair out sometimes. And just seeing how Kat dealt with situations. If she could, I could type of thing. Also regardless of how much dads help, moms where more hats. Kat wasnt perfect but no one is. Jon on the other hand well he needed to/needs to grow up a bit. But in the end I do think it was for best the show ended with the way things where going. It is sad!
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