Being a parent is a wonderful journey. There are lots and lots of good moments like being told that 'ou awesome' by your two year old or being told 'Luv you, Mom' by you other two year old or being given high five after high five by your other two year old or that you are your five year old's 'my best friend'.
But being a parent also means that your flaws are put out there as well. You know, those little things about your personality that you don't like. The ones that come out when you are under stress. Kids have a way of picking up on those things.
For me, it is my mouth.
When I get stressed out and feel overwhelmed, I begin to lash out. I am quick tempered and the filter between my brain and my mouth, just stops working. I yell and say some things at the kids that in a calmer state, I probably would regret.
This was never more apparent to me then when we were all in the car the other night. Lately, Hayden has become more and more annoyed with Claire and her talking. And really, I don't blame him. Its like this little girl has a word quota that she has to reach each day. And since, her vocabulary is not that big, she repeats the same word or words over and over and over again. This can be maddening, especially in a small minivan.
So I guess when Hayden channeled me and screamed, "CLAIRE! SHUT YOUR MOUTH!" It shouldn't have been a surprise but it was. And it was down right painful to hear.
I hated that he said it but I knew and understood why. He was just dealing with the stress like I do. I am his example for what to do and he was following it perfectly.
I was speechless and just sat there stunned. Thankfully, Jeff was in the car and chimed in.
"Hayden, that is really not a nice thing to say. I know that you hear Mommy and Daddy say that but we shouldn't say it either. We will try and do a better job. Now, you need to nicely ask your sister to stop."
"Alright, Dad." Hayden said. "Claire? Will you please shut your mouth?"
I quickly covered my mouth to smother my snickers as Jeff said, "Well, I guess that is a nicer way to say it."
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27 comments:
Promise me you won't think less of me when I tell you that my kids have followed mommy's example and said worse.
Much worse.
So so true! Children are definitely like little mirrors.. all of our good traits and our bad.
And you are definitely not the only one who says things they wish they didn't.
Oh the things children will say! Haha! Don't feel bad. This [I'm sure has happened to everyone]. My little boy isn't old enough to really start repeating yet, and I try to watch what I say. No telling what he may pick up on coming from my mouth. Cute post! :)
Oh gosh, that is funny... I would have been trying to hide my laughter from the front seat for sure! I too lose my patience and temper too often, and yell at my boys and I feel terrible about it! Sometimes I just don't know what else to do, you know, when you've tried everything else? For me, this morning was a disaster of huge proportions - trying to get my 4 year old to go to kindergarten - he refused, cried, ran away from me, had a huge meltdown, at first I was calm but of course I also yelled. Anyway. He won. And I feel terrible.
I yell at the ladies... and I sit there as I'm doing it and HATE myself but I just can't stop.
ugh.
Hayden said exactly what I want to say ALL THE TIME to my girlies.
My daughter said that the one thing I say all the time is ... just give me 5 minutes ... it's so that I don't explode all over them!
My oldest has repeated things I say, on many occasions. I hear him saying If you don't stop crying you are going to bed, to the baby and the 2 year old. He will also say, How many times have I told you to STOP DOING THAT! And my other favorite, Is anyone LISTENING to me in this house?
I'm a yeller, and not just cause one of them is Deaf. But then I scold them for yelling and feel like a jerk.
I think we have all done or said things that shouldn't be done or said in front of little ones. And then as it always happens they repeat it.
Don't beat yourself up over it. Even though you're a mommy, you are still human too.
Oh Jen, we all say things we should not in moments of stress. Hayden is just precious - and see, you tought him well - please is definetely good manners.
Thank goodness for you and your blog! I am not alone!
I use words I should not use in front of my daughter, especially when driving. (WHY, oh WHY am I always behind a bad driver?!) The other night she said "good night a**hole" to my husband. She was just trying out the word I'm sure she heard me say earlier that day! YIKES!
This is one I struggle with. My mom was a big yeller and I find myself falling into the habit at times.
But I'm trying...I hope that counts for something...somewhere...maybe
hahaaa!! oh man don't you hate when that stuff comes back to bite you on the butt!! lol, thats too cute though!!!
Haha! Those days are coming for me too. Joseph is saying "Oh my gosh" and "Heaven forbid!" Right now, so I guess things could be worse. Although it does make his sound like his mother is 80 years old...
oh girl! I can so relate to this post!
We do our best with our kids but no matter how hard we try, they are still hilarious:-)
OH I feel your pain. I struggle with the same thing. It broke my heart the first time I heard Jack say "Shut up!" Thanks for being so honest.
I heard a very sweet "Damn It!" from my son when he was about 4.
Ya - I watched my mouth after that one.
It could have been worse!
Jenna
It really is amazing, the things they pick up on, or don't...supposedly, my husband's first word was "dammit"...learned from his sweet church-lady Grandma (who still lets it slip now & then)! We're definitely trying to clean up our act too!
My son has said worse. His Daddy has a potty mouth when he's on the computer and he happens to be losing a game.
It's never fun to hear kids use bad language.....of course, it's a little funny when my two year old does it. I correct her, but it's a little funny hearing the word "damn" all mouselike..
I totally relate to this ... nothing worse than hearing your own worst sayings come out of your child's mouth.
I'm the same way. Some days the words come out of my mouth make me ashamed of myself. I'm just waiting for my daughter to drop an f-bomb. It's going to happen.
I love how he added please to it. How do you argue with that?
My three year old wet her pants yesterday, looked at the mess, and said, "Oh cwap."
Oh yes, they get it from us. I used to wonder where Tristan would get it when he'd get aggravated at something, then stomp and say "This is SO frustrating." He has no patience and gets it right from me. I am trying to reverse it a bit.
We really are twins aren't we.
M's newest....Son of a B*itch. But she got that one from her Aunt Bobbi.
Well, PLEASE is the magic word. he he
I hear you on the mouth, I have that issues myself as well. And you are SO right, they definitely have a way of picking up on it!
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