I need some advice.
Hayden has started this lovely new habit that is most inappropriate. He is constantly holding his penis. He holds onto it like it is going to fall off. It is not because he has to go to the bathroom. He does it whether his bladder is full or not. When questioned, he says that it inches but he is not scratching it. I have examined it, much to my disliking, and found that it is rash free and I can see no reason why it should itch. His underwear is not too tight. I just don't get it. And I don't know what to do. He is not playing with it, like masturbation, just holding onto it.
It was especially lovely this morning in church. During the service, all the children are asked to come to the front and receive a blessing, before going off to their classes. So there is he stands, in the front of the whole congregation, holding his penis. Big smile on his face. I wanted to crawl under the pew and possibly disown the child.
I want him to stop. But I don't want to punish him. I don't want him to fear his own penis. What should I do? We have tried to explain to him that it is not appropriate to play/touch your private parts in public but we are just not getting through.
Please help me! I am a mother in need of advice. Come on, I know you have to have some.
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My son (2) made his penis discovery early and it lasted awhile before he got over it. I really stressed about it! Now that my other son (1) discovered his I am convinced this is something all little boys do. They pretty much get over it at their own pace.
It's a boy thing. Both mine held their penises...I have no suggestions...except to tell him about private parts and it's not polite to touch them in public, like picking noses or something. I don't know if this helps or not...
My almost 7 yr old still holds his a lot. Just to make sure it's there, I think. lol
Sorry, I have no advice, but I have heard it is a phase all boys go through. The exploration and awareness is helpful, but I'm sure it is embarassing. Hopefully you can get through to him about not holding it in public, and take him home if he does go against your wishes. Best of luck!
I've got nothin'...Jackson is to young and still in diapers so we haven't run into this phase yet. I was hoping to learn for future reference!!
I agree with Rhea. Use whatever behavior motivations you use for picking noses. I am more the 'punishment' type of mom, maybe you could say, every time you catch him holing his penis he has to lay down 2 minutes early at bedtime. That will help him count by 2's, right?
My 1 year old already feels the need to do a package check each time I change his diaper. Don't know what to tell ya. That's helpful, eh. :)
Ya, I've got nothin'. Sorry. Everything I've heard leans towards a stage that needs lots of reminders.
Try not to be embarrassed. Anyone with little boys or has had little boys, gets it. Really, anyone married probably gets it.
I agree with Rhea...play it on the DL, and explain to him what's polite and what's not. If you make too big a deal out of it, he'll just keep doing it! BTW, I'm starting a Great New Giveaway over at my place today, and there are SIX prizes to win! Come on by!
two words...4 girls
I absolutely know what you're going through.
My son won't leave his alone either. I swear if I have to say "leave it alone" one more time.
But its the questions that get me. 'is there a bone in my willy', 'when will my willy be like daddy's' 'why do we aactually need a willy. I mean girls can wee OK without one . . . '
His new thing now is to have it poking out the top of his pj bottoms like he's got it on display because he's all proud of it.
Sheesh!
ACK! I have 2 girls... sorry!
I think if this was me, I would just reiterate what Rhea said... there are times/places for doing this sort of thing, but in public is not one!
It is a boy thing, and it is something he will eventually outgrow. The question is whether you'll maintain your sanity until that happens. We have a family photograph taken during a very special family reunion. Yup, there was my boy, smack dab in the front of the group, eyes closed, the only one talking, hand doing the 6 o'clock salute. Preserved on celluloid for all eternity.
Okay so its not that bad really. One of mine would pull down the front of his pants and say "big one" everytime he had, well a big one. I would just say "greaaaaat, but nobody needs to know". We had the private parts talk and it got better eventually. They all do it. I seriously wouldn't let it stress you out at all. Kids do kid stuff.
They ALL do it--and MOST of them stop. LOL Just give it time, and, in the meantime, keep your gentle reminders going.
Maybe it does itch... mild urinary tract infection? See if he'll drink cranberry juice (not the Ocean Spray kind, but the kinds that don't have added sugar/corn syrup).
I feel for you. No kiddos yet but really it is kind of funny and know that all little boys do it--part of that self discovery phase.
I don't have kids so no good advice there, but I feel you're pain...my husband does the same thing!
I have 2 sons - now teens and early 20s and I used to draw the letter 'P' in the air to remind them to take their hands off their penis. It meant I could use the signal when others were around (or when they were up on stage and I was in the audience) and nobody else knew what it meant.
Good luck with it - an age old battle that doesn't really stop. ever. with. males.
cheers,
Blueberry
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