Well, its Thursday once again, yeah it comes around once every week, and that means that it is time for Writer's Workshop on at Mama Kat's. For this assignment, I have chosen to combine two of the prompts. I am going to write about what I would do if I had the day off from 'work' and a letter to some one I miss dearly. Ready?
I don't actually have to work at my 'second job' as an RN today but I am home with the kids, my 'first job'. If I had the whole day all to myself, I really don't know what I would do with myself. Well, I have a few ideas like, sleep in , go shopping, treat myself to a mani/pedi and a massage, go out for lunch, read a book, go wine tasting and wine shopping, sleep, dance the night away, and the list could go on and on and on. But in truth, what I would really, really like to do is jump on a plane and fly to Vegas. Not because I am a huge gambler or because I live a secrete life as a stripper but because some one very special to me lives there.My best friend in the whole wide world and cousin lives in Vegas and she has for the past 3 years. I think that I will always remember the day that she left. It was a very warm, August day and I stopped by her house for just a minute to say good bye. It was not the good bye scene that I wanted nor the one that she deserved. She was busy, I had baby Hayden with me, we said good bye and that was that. We hugged and I drove away. Then the next morning, she and her hubby drove away across the country
It took a couple of days for the truth to set it but when it did, I cried. I sobbed like a blubbery baby for her. It was not pretty. I cried that we didn't get to say good bye properly. I cried for the fact that she was gone. I cried for the fact that my girlfriend was gone, the one friend that truly knew me. The one person that I could talk about anything with.
I miss her so much, even more than I think that she knows. I miss spending time together, shopping with her, talking about everything and nothing, being silly but most of all I miss that fact that I am not able to see her as a mother. She just recently had her first child. A very cute and beautiful baby girl. I miss sharing this experience with her. I want to watch her mother her baby. I want to she her as a mother and watch them grow into a family.
I have a another reason for missing her so much and it is purely selfish. See, I am a terrible long distance friend. I don't call, I hate talking on the phone, and I don't write. I have no excuse, there really is no excuses in this day and age. The world is so small but some how the distance across the country is so great. It doesn't make sense. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think about her I and yet, I do nothing about it. I don't know why? Maybe it hurts to much? Maybe it just makes missing her so much worse? Maybe, I miss her more than I even know?





21 comments:
Oh, I think spending the day with my best friend would be absolutely devine! I hope you get to do it soon..
Hope you get to hop on that plane soon...
That would be so hard! I really feel for you. Maybe this post will be the motivation you need to get in contact with her more often. Maybe you need to send her this "letter." I bet she misses you too.
lovely - and I hope you sent her a copy of this post
I am in touch with that emotion. One of my best friends moved to Houston years ago and it was really, really hard. Thankfully, we live in a day and age where contact through the distance is a little easier. It's not quite the same but it is better than nothing.
You almost crammed 2 aasignments into 1 you over achiever you! ;)
That sounds like a very good day. I am also not a good long distance friend as my girl from A French Fatum will tell you. :/
Sounds like a great way to spend a free day. I hope SHE read this. I'm so sorry that you don't live near each other anymore!
To my very best friend - you are and always will be near and dear to me. The distance means nothing since I know that we will always be friends. I do wish we could be mothers together and wish we could hang out together, but our friendship goes beyond distance. Thank you for the letter. You are always in my thoughts. I will see you at Christmas.
Ahh! That made me tear up! I remember when one of my friends moved away...it was like a death. Get on that plane!
So sweet! She is lucky to have you! Even if it is long distance and even if you haven't gotten re-connected in awhile - some friendships are great because the roots are so deep, when you do find that time to re-connect via phone/visit/etc., it is like no time has passed, although it has and surroundings may be different (more family members - babys, etc) but that true bond of friendship remains!
It's so hard to be a "long-distance" anything, right?? (girfriend, friend, mom etc..) It's like we get too caught up in our day to day things...but you know in your heart that she is (and always will be) your best bud!! And hey..any good excuse for Vegas...yippee!!
perfect days...ahhhh
ak, I'm a horrible long distance friend, too. I never email. I never call. I'm happy to talk on the phone if they do the calling, but I just don't pick up the phone myself. Ever. I don't even send Christmas cards. Or Birthday cards. Yea, I suck!
This was such a sweet post! Bittersweet, really. I hope you two stay in contact and get to spend some time together!!
I think that we are so blessed to have friends. I have someone like that in my life and we see each other twice a year. It is hard to leave but thank goodness for e-mail. You are a great writer and I am sure that she is missing you, so just start. It is all about as you said "communication."
Also, thanks for coming by on the layover from BATW. Although I haunt your blog alot without you knowing or maybe you do know, I appreciated what you said.
Awwww....I hope you're able to find the time!! And soon!
I'm so bad at keeping in touch too- I have a handful of girlfriends I cherish, but never talk to! So ridiculous.
I've been a bad long distance friend lately too....it's so easy to get caught up in life and before you know it 6 months go by without a call... I'm calling her tomorrow.
Thanks and Hugs.
My very bestest friend is still in NY while I moved to FL so I totally understand. I miss a lot of things that we would experience if we lived closer. I email and send her pics all the time but she is like you. So, I ask you, PLEASE call her more or write. I know she would LOVE that!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good letter. You deserve the perfect day. Maybe sometime soon you can take the time.
Jen, Okay, I'm several days late commenting on this one, but I hope you check out your old posts for new comments...
I also am a horrible long distance friend and recently found a great solution (actually I was introduced to it). My BFF from High School lives in Norway and we have definitely been out of touch with our lives, babies, etc. Well she informed me she had a blog and one thing led to another and here I am...I feel that we are SO much closer than we've been in years. Perhaps you could invite your cousin to start one to or at least check in with yours and leave comments.
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