So I went to have my yearly physical yesterday. It was with a new doctor. I decided that since there will be NO more babies coming from my womb, I don't really need to be seeing an OB/GYN. So I switched to an internal medicine doctor. The visit went well, no major issues, well expect for this.
First she could not get over the fact that I had triplets. She just kept saying, "Wow, triplets. I just can't imagine." We would be on a totally unrelated subject and she would just say that phrase. Now I know that having triplets is not a common thing but come on, get over it all ready. I have triplets, it is not a big deal. I am here to talk about me not my triplets.
She also brought up my weight. This is the dreaded conversation that I hate having. I know that I am overweight, may even be on the obese side if you believe that chart, but what I don't like is to be told that I am. So this is what the lovely doctor said to me, "You really need to loss some weight but with your life, I don't know how you are going to do it. But if your BMI gets any higher, I will have to refer you to a bariatric doctor."
So thanks doc. Thanks for pointing out my biggest insecurity, making me feel like a hugely fat and ugly person, threatening me with a bariatric doctor and giving me no help on how I can fit exercising into my life.
I was so upset by this that after the kids were in bed, I had more wine than I should have and a piece of chocolate cake that was probably fit for 2 people instead of just one. Leave me be, I am embracing all that is my fat ass, fat thighs, fat stomach, and fat everything else.
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At my last check up, I was asked: "Wow...how long have you been at this weight?" Such a confidence booster. My problem is that if there is something wrong, they want to link it to my weight rather than getting to a core problem. I don't have high blood pressure. Or diabetes. And my cholesterol levels would make any person envious. I think I am just missing a metabolism. I wonder if it will ever be found.
Jeez wizz... that's just... dumb of her... what a wonderful example of the medical community
Stupid doctors UGH!!! Thanks for stopping by my Kansas blog today :)
Ya, how's a mama with little people all over the place supposed to do it? If you find out, let me know. I could use some tips!
...for what it's worth, you are NOT alone!! =)
I'll bet you're not sleeping enough either. When you're a mom with small kids the whole universe seems to work against you, thwarting all weight loss efforts. Doctors. Sheesh!
wow - that was really rude - I actually sat straight up when I read that! Miffed I would be - and yes, I would have had more cake than you did!!
What a bitch!! I would switch doctors! I mean seriously...how insensitive can you be??
My doctor and I have come to an agreement. If I can get my triglycerites (sp?) in line by December, he won't put me on Niaspan. My diabetic mother is on Niaspan. I am freaking out and working out...everyday.
She is evil...and must be destroyed.
(I never miss an opportunity to quote my beloved Steel Magnolias.)
Jen, I am getting up from Miss Pretty Pink here, pouring myself a glass of Cabernet, and toasting you. Right. This. Very. Minute.
You hard rocking mother of 4 children. Daggone, you go drink more wine, too. We'll have a bloggy party.
Yeesh.
JEN, I love you just the way you are!!
I totally agree with you. Every little thing, a cold ,well it must be because you are overweight. A stye, it must be because you are overweight.
Every time I go to the doctors office, they give me this handout of a "triangle diet". Um, hello, I have three kids in my house that eat real food and I can't afford it monetarily nor timewise to cook separate meals for us. And in case you didn't notice, I'm not a millionaire and I can't afford a maid, so it's just me....and then I want to say, "Look, I know I am overweight. Do you think I somehow look at myself in the mirror and don't see these disgusting pockets of fat all over me? Did you think I missed those? Could I get a little encouragement? Instead of you berating me? I'm telling you fat people are the next smokers. We will be made out to be pariahs. You watch and see what I'm saying.
seriously? i cannot believe that your dr. said that to you! what a not nice doctor...way to go with the lack of sensitivity you big jerk!
That was just stupid of her!
Wine and chocolate cake sound good though!!
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I'm thinking that you may want to try another MD!! YOU do not need someone like this...at the end of your appointment, you could have said, "Well, thanks to you, I am now depressed. I think you need to prescribe an antidepressant!"
Well kudos to you for going! I have avoided the doctor for just this reason for two years now.
Yes. It's unhealthy.
And stupid.
But my self esteem is mashed enough. Do they honestly think that we don't know? We don't shop for clothes in "those" stores?
Sheesh!
Oh poo bum Doctor!! How rude! Now I know they are supposed to tell us when we are "unhealthy" and yeah it does hurt! But hee wiz some helpful advice would be nice instead of just an insult.
((hugs)) If it makes you feel better I would have eaten the cake too!
Jen, dear, I, too, embace all that is you and given enough wine ... wink-wink
:)
Get a new Doctor. Someone who there to help you be healthy on more than just a physical level.
I am far from fit, but I am always working at it. Sometimes I do better than others. Nothing annoys me more than a doctor telling me that I am over weight when I didn't solicit an opinion on this topic.
I'm getting to the point of 'overweight'... Actually, I'm past the point of overweight by BMI, and obviously I have trouble admitting it.
"Hi, my name's Jen, and I'm ... well I guess I'm a little heavy. Not compared to some, you know, and what does the BMI really mean anyway? ... and I'm overweight."
There's so much stuff now being aimed at the 'obesity epidemic'. Where is the line between being happy with who I am and enjoying my life (food included), and working together to become healthier as a country/community?
The DREADED weigh in. I swear, it keeps me from going to the doctor.
A few years ago, the nurse looked at my weight and exclaimed, "Wow. You do not look like you weigh that much!"
Really? Is that supposed to be a compliment?
And, those charts.. a bunch of BS.
Ditto on the wine & cake...they would make me feel better! Docs suck. My son's pediatrician insisted I was having twins with my last pregnancy. Nice. She wasn't joking. She told me to have my OB/GYN do another ultrasound. Way to make a preggo lady feel good...
I would have looked at her and said "Triplets. remember??"
Ditto to Lisa's comment.
Hellloooo? You get at least one year for each kid to lose the baby weight. So you've got another two years before it's even an issue.
Maybe you need to find a (nicer) and more helpful doctor.
Don't let this get to you.
Now you know why I work night shift so I don't have to talk to dr's!! You had triplets! triplets! You look great!! I tell my dr. that I am vertically challenged! If I was only 8 ft tall I would be perfect!
Doctors are jerks. I would have gone for too much wine and cake too....
You should have said, "Bitch Please!" I can't believe they would not suggest some ideas to help you. Just look at your angels and see yourself through their eyes. That's right...your PERFECT!
Weight is such a touchy issue for any woman, let alone a mom who's tummy is all stretched out and who's gained extra weight sitting around the house watching the babies. I'm shocked at the things doctors say to women. At a check up my doctor handed me a free pass to weight watchers, and I weighed 20 pounds LESS than I do now. He'd probably look at me in complete disgust now.
Ugh. Doctors.
I know on 5 Minutes for Mom, they post some quickie exercise stuff every so often (like 5 minutes in the bathroom while your kids are in the tub). Maybe you could go check them out?
I'll come join you in eating some of that cake and we can both enjoy our pudge together.
That there is what we call BAD bedside manner. What the heck could she possibly have been thinking? I would seriously consider switching doctors.
If it's any consolation, I had to admit to being "very overweight" for a questionnaire at my daughter's pediatrician appt yesterday. I LOVED that. I celebrated with a bowl of ice cream and a half dozen pepperidge farm Brussels cookies. Chocolate really does make everything better.
Lisa's comment was awesome: "TRIPLETS. Remember?"
That was truly terrible, and I'm sorry you had to go through that.
sorry, dear. those BMI charts are BS!! and your dr is a bitch :)
Why does society have to judge us on our weight? Seriously! I've actually been trying to lose weight (and not being very successful) and was getting so down on myself for not losing anything. So now I'm trying to learn to love me for me and not for what size I wear. I'm still trying to be healthy. After all I don't want heart disease or joint problems in my old age. But the number on the scale no longer defines who I am!
I hate that this happened. Let me tell you my little theory. First of all, did you have your tubed tied? Cuz I'm convinced having mine tied caused all kinds of weight havoc. Anyway, I'm convinced having more than one baby in ones womb causes all kinds of hormonal upheaval after they are born, and coupled with lack of sleep and it's nearly impossible to lose an ounce of weight until things stabalize........like 2 years later. I think our bodies say, "uh, uh. No way. I'm not letting go of this.....I NEED it". But that's just me. Speaking from my experience with weight loss after my twins.
I am sending you a hug! Right now! I agree, I would switch docs as well. We all know we have areas to work on. But to be told so rudely is NO excuss! She sounds like she is burnt out and has no energy to care anymore!
A peice of chocolate cake sounds great!
Blech! What a crappy comment.
I have read that lack of sleep contributes to obesity. I know there are some mothers who lose the weight, but seriously, many struggle to sleep, be healthy and lose weight while their little ones are so young!
{{hugs}}
What an insensitive jerk. I vote with "Triplets, remember?" AND finding a doc with a better bedside manner.
I would have eaten the whole flippin' cake.
I'm all fired up for ya!!! I hate that she made you feel that way!
And this was a female doctor??? Sheesh, you'd think she'd have a little more tact!
Oh, and I hope you savored every last bite of that chocolate cake... that's exactly what I would have done!!!
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