I am not a perfect mother, in fact I don't even try to be (I know I know, you are all shocked). But I do have a few things on my chest that I must get off.
I usually take the kids to a playgroup once a week and today we were going to go but it was canceled. I found this out after I had unloaded the kids, walked them across the parking lot and got to the door which was locked.
The kids were not happy with this development, in fact they were down right sad. There was even some tears, especially about having to go right back in the van. So being the awesome mommy that I am, I took them to the mall to play. Yeah, everyone's happy!
Who does not love the mall play area. Its a free place for the kids to run around in and usually there is a friendly mommy or two to chat with. Today was different. Here is what I had to deal with.
Dear Play Area Mommy 1,
Please don't reprimand my son for asking your daughter if she wanted to play tag with him. He was just looking for a friend to play with. Don't tell him that this is not the place to run. It certainly most is the place to run and play. Isn't that what the point is of this place? What do you expect the kids to do here? Sit and play patty cake? Oh and could you please stop asking your daughter to use her 'walking feet'? Come on really, do you really expect her to walk? And not to mention, it is really annoying.
Dear Play Area Mommy 2,
I have been watching and listening to you from my little seat over here. Do you know what you are doing? You keep telling your baby to stop putting toys in her mouth. You do know that is what babies do right? Right!?! You are seriously going to fight this battle? Because every toy you take away from her and tell her, 'no no, that's yucky', she picks another one and shoves it in her mouth when you look away to deal with your other kid or talk to another mom. Alright, if you insist, good luck with that one. I think you are winning, NOT.
Dear Play Area Mommy 3.
Will you PLEASE watch your own kid! I have 4 here to keep an eye on and I don't like having to watch yours as well. She was wondered out of the play area 3 times now and each time I nicely set her back in. Come on lady, you just have one kid to watch, it is not hard. I promise. But if you can't stop you conversation long enough to see where she is, then I guess I will just let her walk the mall. Hopefully, she doesn't get snatched up by somebody else. PAY ATTENTION!
There, I'm done. I feel so much better now that that is off my chest. *whew*
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38 comments:
I got stressed out just reading this. I've been away from playgroups too long. It's all coming back to me. Aaaaahhhh!
Some. Peoples'. Mommies.
I swear.
Just so you know, you should invest in stationary because you will want to write other mommies until your children are Harvard Grads and even then, you'll pull a few aside and learn them someth'in.
When mine were little we'd always go to the McDonald's indoor playground or something. And mine would invariably find the french fries on the floor. And the other moms would just freak out. Whatever...
That is definitely one of the most frustrating things about motherhood...
Don't you just wish you had the nerve to actually give them these letters?
They better watch out; if they catch you at a bad moment (i.e. PMS), you just might!
You are a good person for telling us about this and not telling the other Mommies. I don't know if I coudl be that good. I almost went off in the waiting room at the hospital b/c someone in there was talking nonsense.
Oh, wow. The nerve of some people. This is pretty funny though, I'm sure at the time it wasn't but hey.
i think those same mommies are here! i love the people that tell my b-ster not to talk to their kid. what in the world? do u think they are intentionally raising anti-social crazies?
Oh man. I have to say, I'm so glad we have "outgrown" the mall's play area. My youngest is 3 and is my only boy. He'd much rather be at the park. I'm all for it. Those germ filled mall areas and weirdos lurking creep me out.
(not post related, but i commented below you on sits - so you are not the last one and your not as late as you think)
oh my word, are you serious? really? wow!
Some people are so unaware!
I am constantly amazed by other people's behavior. I shouldn't be, I know, by this time I should just shake my head and say "it takes all kinds." But I can't, I see people like these mommies and I get so frustrated. I feel you, Jen!
Hi-lar-ious! I have given up on other people. Not really, but I have grown so weary of watching/listening/observing other mothers that are complete IDIOTS. Yes, I said it. (Sorry... not)
You cannot reason with an infant or a toddler. They lack the mental capacity to understand reasoning. (Literally) AND I am totally with you on these people that just have one child but don't even pay attention to where that child is or what they are doing. It's not rocket science people!
Ok, that's all I have to say. :)
very, very guilty of being play area mommy 2.....
I think you may be living my life 1500 miles away. Sometimes, there is just no winning.
Ick, I hope the kiddies had some fun--sounds like it was a nightmare for you (although you did get some good blog fodder!)
=)
Wow! Those exact same mommies have also been down here in the Hoosier State and I have bumped into all 3 @ one point or another...or two...or three - I particularly love when mommy # 1 and 2 shoot me dirty looks because I am NOT telling Tyler to stop running and jumping and climbing and all that expending energy play stuff, and because he's licking stuff he probably shouldn't, not that I let him lick or put in his mouth anything he wants - but he is curious and babies/toddlers are alot like lizards - they analyze everything in their environment with their mouths/tongue!
Great observations, Jen. Sad to hear, but hilarious.
I don't think our mall has a play area like this. Actually, where I live now, we don't have a mall, but the next town over has one, really nice one, and it has no play area. BUt it does have a carousel!
oh Hon - you ARE SO NICE!! - I would have totally told that mom that her child was walking away!! But, I'm a meanie!!
Oh! I've met these moms! My favorite is #3. This is what I think that mom thinks in that situation. "Well since she has all those kids, she won't mind watching one more." This seems to happen to me all the time. A mom will sit her kid down with mine and then walk off. Um HELLO!
Grrrr! I got aggravated just reading that!
"Walking feet"??? Ew.
Oy!! I hear ya! Some people just don't get it!
Even I feel better, just to hear you vent! Mommy 1, how dare she? On what plante is it okay to reprimand your son because he asked her daughter to play with him? Ugh.
Mommy 2, I hate this. I understand the importance of mouthing objects and playing with the mouth. I just hate to see parents telling babies to stop poking their tongues out and stop exploring objects with their mouths.
Mommy 3, well, to be honest, you're probably me, but seriously, you and I need to shape up quickly.
Ugh!!! Mall play areas can get on my nerves too. Some parents are just maddening!!
Oh man! Just thinking about all those children in there is making me feel a little panicky lol. Whenever I see lots of kids I feel the need to protect them all lol.
dear play area mommy 4,
pay attention to the sign that reads "THIS PLAY AREA IS FOR CHILDREN 3 AND UNDER" - please keep your 6 year old out!!! it's impossible for my 2 yr old to play because of YOUR wild child that is too old to be in here!!! (nevermind the fact that YOUR not even watching your child)
Yeah.. other Mommies suck.
Amen & Amen & Amen
Use your "walking feet"? Wow, that is a new one by me. I always just told my kids to stop f***ing running around!! Just kidding, I never swear in front of my kids. Bahahahhaha!
Seriously!
Walking feet?! That's totally retarded. Totally.
I just love the moms who are on the phone and completely ignore their children. Hello? Put the phone down and pay attention to your kid!
the sad thing is that they are thinking something bad about you? When you do something right-
socialize your kids and teach them to be kind
or dont let them run in aisles of stores or climb through displays becasue you told them they could "play" at the play area
or when you are busy setting run out the door child back inside and in that moment one of your children accidently bump a nother child- really was an accident...
YOU GET THE BAD LOOKS.
What is with that???
I feel your pain.
Girl, you are funny!! I loved reading through your posts. Great stuff!!!
HA! Thanks for a warning of the wierdos I will soon have to deal with (hoping I'm not one of them). I've been wondering about playgroups...how to you get find & involved w/them?
OHH i so feel your pain. My kids are misfits because they are actually polite and use manners and try not to leave anyone out! although I thought that was the point in elementary school? And can you believe when my child said thank you to an adult for holding open a door for him I got accused of beating YES BEATING MY CHILD because I taught him manners!
some people suck!
That kid was probably trying to run away!!
I'm always amazed at these places, always.
Great Post and what a great way to vent your frustrations without really upsetting any one!! I might have to give this a try!!
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