I was not very out-going, kinda shy, a wall flower you could say. I was the girl that every boy considered a friend or like his little sister. There was not much dating going on for me in high school. But that didn't mean that I wasn't dying for a boyfriend like every other teenage girl.
My closest friend during this time was a boy named Seth. He and I met while working together at a local restaurant. We used to have so much fun together and get into so much trouble for out legendary water fights. He was a really good friend but underneath that friendship, I totally had a HUGE crush on him. They only problem was that he had a girl friend.
When I met Seth, he had actually just broken up with a girl. I was all ready to move in and be his next girl friend but he pulled the rug out from under me and hooked up with an other girl. I was crushed. But rather than get all depressed about it, I pulled myself up by my boot straps and stayed close to him.
I was still his good friend. He would talk to me. He would tell me about problems that he and his girlfriend were having. He would ask me for advice, advice on how to be a good boyfriend. He really liked this girl and want to be with her forever, you know forever in a high schoolers mind.
Now, I did not like this girl, she was kind of shady. I thought that she was not good enough for him, of course she wasn't good enough, she wasn't me. I wanted her out of the picture. She needed to move on and leave Seth to me.
So when he would ask me for advice, I would give him bad advice. Not terrible as to sink the relationship right away, just subtle little things. I encouraged the little annoying habits that boys have like not calling or forgetting special days. I figured that when he was mine, I would fix him. I was young, sue me.
Well, it worked. She got super annoyed with him, pissed actually and broke off the relationship. Seth was devastated. But I was there to help him get over his heart ache and kiss his wounds. I was there to make everything all better again.
So I guess you could say the thing that I stole was an other girl's boyfriend.
But before you think that I am some brazen hussy. Let me just tell you that I got what was coming to me. After a week of dating, our relationship got ugly. We were not good together as a couple and we ended up not being able to be friends anymore. I lost a very good friend that year and hurt him in more ways than I knew and for that I am truly sorry. Lesson learned.
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25 comments:
Sometimes we have to learn the hard way. I'm sorry you lost your friend though. :o(
Aww sorry you lost a good friend. High school, though..it can be pretty traumatic huh.
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It is always hard to lose a good friend. Sometimes they come back into one's life many years later and it works out well.
Aahhhh...don't you love those high school memories?! We all had a LOT to learn.
I loved high school. Catty girls, hormone-crazed boys... aahhh the memories. And we knew everything back then, didn't we? Well, at least I did. :) And things like these made us who we are today.. Catty women. (jk)
It's sad how petty teens can be when it comes to forgiveness. I mean, all you did was give him subtle bad advice (on purpose). ok ok, I'll stop being sarcastically silly.
Good story!~ Thanks!
I think we have all done something similar to this in our high school years. Or maybe it was just me, I was a catty biyatch in HS.
ok, i'll take you off the hussy list and put you on the "boys and girls can not be friends" list...remember when harry met sally? ha!
Yikes, that really stinks. I can relate to this from my own HS days. I'm sorry you lost a friend.
I think we all have times in our past where we are less than glamorous! If he would have just been your boyfriend in the first place, none of that would have happened:-) Hee, hee, hee.
Wow, what a really honest and heartfelt essay.
And, why did you change the followering thing? I thought you wanted it that way?!?!?
So I wonder how many relationships he went through using your old advice? Do you think he ever wised up?
Oh man. Just think, that lesson might have led you to being the person your hubby has now!
I was all ready to call you a little vixen and then you go and learn a lesson in the end. Way to go and spoil my fun woman!!!
Great story. :)
I hate life's lessons but alas, we must learn them.
High school is tough, but we have to learn one way or the other. I'm sorry to hear you lost such a good friend.
People could not pay me enough money to go back to high school! ((hugs))
Great story. Seems to me that lessons learned the hard way sometimes "stick" better.
Isn't high school the pits!? Thank goodness it doesn't last forever and the real world is so much better, Ha HA! I did this once (maybe twice) too, and it ended up badly each time! Like you said "lesson learned"!
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I agree sometimes the leassons that suck the most are the ones you remember the most
That's a tough lesson to learn!
Sorry about your friend, but at least you were able to get it off your chest!
I had a friend that was like that in HS. She wanted my bf and constantly gave him bad advice when it came to 'us' - although at the time I didn't know. Me and Mr. BF never really worked out even though we dated on/off for a year. Don't know what happened with him, he never dated her though :). Her and I are still friendly to this day, after she came clean and all :)
That is what high school is for ---to do stupid things and learn life's hard lessons. It's a training bra for life.
Boys are always better as friends. Great read and good lesson learned.
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